SELF TALK
Did you start a conversation with yourself recently? Did you and an imaginary person recently go at it? Do you imagine talking to your spouse about how they offended you? Do you rehearse old arguments?
This might mean you can’t critically think.
NOT SELF REFLECTION
What is the difference between talking to yourself and thinking? I don’t think many people really know the difference. I argue most people self-talk instead of thinking. Endless chatter. Forever conversations. Sentences which answer your own questions. That’s what’s going through the minds of most people.
People wonder why they don’t hear God, don’t understand their feelings or are flabbergasted when a spouse blind sides them.
It’s possible this occurs because you never think. You might just self talk all day. There’s an old proverb which states, “You were given two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen twice as much as you speak.”
The twist to this proverb is it applies to your mind. You should listen to yourself twice as much as you talk to yourself. You will be surprised by what you actually have to say when you don’t drown yourself out with endless chatter.
TRUTH IS FOUND IN STILLNESS
When words stop occupying our minds, we make space for clarity. Clarity gives us proper understanding about absolute truth. This is different than “My Truth” or “Your Truth”. The world is not so abstract where there exists no answers to common questions. If there was no such thing as absolute truth we would all get 100s on tests at university. We would inform the instructors all answers are different and debate perspectives all day.
Numerous benefits occur when we remove negative self-talk. Creating space for thinking are moments where epiphanies can manifest. In order to allow the mind to work you must stop giving it conversation tasks. Make space for your mind to do something else besides listening to conversation all day long. This includes your inner voice.
WHAT SELF TALK MIGHT SUGGEST
If you are unable to be still, it might be a sign of restlessness. We often carry unresolved traumas, pain, or other issues. The easiest way to not think about them is to have a conversation. There is nothing more distracting than a conversation. This includes conversations with oneself.
Given the fact nearly 75% of all self talk is negative and 95% is thought to be repetitive — we must stop to analyze the glaring reality self talk might not be that beneficial.
SOLITUDE DOESN’T MEAN LONELINESS
To be with oneself is not lonely. To sit on a bench and be present without company is not depressing. To be by yourself does not mean you are isolated.
Humans are social creatures. We design our societies around interaction. In order to interact at our highest capacity we need to know who we are. Another cannot tell you who you are. Only you can inform yourself who you are. This must be done in solitude where you can think without influence.
Remember, thinking does not mean self-talk. That’s not thinking. That’s just talking to yourself in your mind. Do not confuse movement with progress.
THE RESULT OF THINKING MORE
When you learn to turn off your inner voice you will notice something shift. Empathetic feelings will occur more. Behavior changes in your spouse will be obvious. Thoughtful planning will occur frequently. Mindfulness of your actions will increase. Closeness will increase and arguments will be less dramatic. You will find inappropriate coping mechanisms lessen as well.
Overall, you will become a much more considerate, caring and purposeful spouse.
IN CLOSING
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If thinking sounds hard it might be because you weren’t taught to think! You were taught to self-talk. There is a difference. Scientists universally agree that animals think. Those without the ability to vocalize don’t have the capacity to self-talk in their minds. There is no inner voice for an animal that cannot speak. I am always thinking. I’m just not saying anything to myself when I do. What do your eyes say when you look at someone? Do you think or distract yourself with self chatter?
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller, Award Winner of the December 2024 prestigious International Impact Book Awards — a premier award program dedicated to celebrating and recognizing the exceptional work of authors around the globe and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. He is also a Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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