We get caught up in “fitting in”. Those that have a mind of their own, and do not agree with certain social beliefs or in following the newest trend are seen as drama creators or “troublemakers”.
I was just having a conversation with my youngest on the way home. The big sell on Starbucks.
I stopped drinking Starbucks because every time I did I had this weird numbing and chemical taste in my mouth. It isn’t organic. I’m used to organic coffee so I can really tell.
We talked about how “NOW” it is the trend where we live to BE INTO STARBUCKS! It’s the new in thing to do.
Many of us don’t even question our food choices. The body gets used to these chemicals and we actually crave them. But to our minds, it’s all about FITTING IN!
We need human connection and yet we often do not even stop and take a look at the actions we do in order to fit in!
Many of us do not care! As long as we fit in! Even if “fitting in” is not healthy (like drinking coffee that clearly has chemicals, or excessive alcohol etc).
We need to question, how low do we go to fit in? Unless you are one of the ones that jump in as the “leader” and attract people that will follow along with you without questioning it. Even that is unhealthy! How does it serve the greater good? Really, It’s an ego trip.
From the leaders to the followers, it is still an ego trip. Either inflating or deflating – shrinking down in order to feel a connection to others.
To those of us that do not need to fit in because fitting in feels horrible – having to mold and agree with things that we don’t believe in – not expressing our authenticity is hell. We can be seen as misfits. It’s a choice.
Being alone and authentic, real, honest and speaking up – sharing what our thoughts are on a subject feels saner and freer than the alternative. We still desire connection but not at the cost of drinking coffee that leaves a bad taste in our mouths afterward.
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