Stop Judging Him by His Car or Career

We’ve all been to a man’s house and found it in shambles. If you had to guess, he hadn’t cleaned in months. His fridge was virtually empty, and his trash was overflowing with takeout containers.

Some men struggle to keep their space clean, and it comes across as immature. If your partner doesn’t keep certain things in his home, it’s a sign that he may not be a keeper. A blank, messy space doesn’t appeal to most people. However, if a man has things like cleaning products, a stocked fridge, and a proper bed setup, it can be a game-changer. While most of us expect these things to exist in someone’s home, it’s becoming increasingly rare for some men. Once you notice he has these things, you’ll know he’s an absolute keeper.

If a man has these 6 increasingly rare things in his home, he’s an absolute keeper

1. Fitted sheets

If you’ve dated a man, you know it’s rare to find a proper bed set up. They’re often not afraid to sleep on a bare mattress. A fitted sheet may be a rare relic in their home. If a guy has one, it’s a green flag. He cares about his space and understands how a put-together sleeping space matters.

There are mental health benefits to keeping your bed in tip-top shape. Making your bed in the morning can make you feel calmer and more organized. It can ease anxiety if you’re affected by clutter and disorganization. If a man has a fitted sheet and makes his bed, he’s a rare one, and definitely a keeper.

2. A bed frame

Along with a fitted sheet, a man who has a real bed frame is a keeper. How many times have you walked into a man’s house and discovered he slept on a mattress on the floor? You may assume this habit would end when he graduated from college, but it can persist throughout his life. Their motivation may be different. Some men prefer the support of the floor, while others might be lazy.

VICE interviewed several men who spent years sleeping on a mattress on their floor. One thing stood out: they ditched this habit when they settled into a long-term relationship. If you meet a man who already has a bed frame without your insistence, he’s rare and a keeper.

3. Cleaning products

Cleaning products in your home is common sense. We have to keep our space clean not only for looks, but also for our health. Some men may not spend a lot of time at home. If they work long hours and choose to eat out rather than cook at home, they may use their place solely as a place to crash after a long day. They may not think to pick up cleaning products when they’re at the store. If you see some in your man’s house, you’ll want to keep him around.

There are many benefits to keeping your space clean. Research has found that people who kept a clean house were healthier than the average person. If a man keeps a messy home, he may not only be toxic for your mental health, but also your physical health.

4. Sets of clean towels

Taking a shower or washing your face at your man’s house can be a gamble. How do we know if the towel we’re using was recently cleaned? Men aren’t always the best at doing laundry, and sometimes, they may only own one towel. If a guy has a full set of towels and there’s a clean one for you each time you’re there, it’s a sign he’s a keeper. He might be more mature than the average man because he puts thought into the little things.

Keeping a towel damp for too long can cause fungal infections to spread. If he’s not washing his towels and constantly reusing the same one, he might be putting your health at risk. A guy who has a dry, clean towel to offer you has his life together.

5. A stocked fridge

Some men are fueled only by fast food and takeout. When you go to their house and crack open the fridge, you can almost see a tumbleweed rolling by. You’re lucky if you find some water to drink. I don’t know about you, but this makes a man look immature to me. A fruit or vegetable would go a long way. It’s becoming increasingly rare to find a man who keeps his fridge stocked.

If a man keeps his fridge stocked, it’s a green flag. He cares about his health and well-being. Plus, he’s more likely to cook. He might be more resourceful than the average guy. He may be worth settling down with.

6. Books

I don’t know about you, but when I see books in someone’s house, I’m impressed. Maybe it’s because I am a reader myself, but I think it’s a good look. Science has found that readers have interesting added benefits. It may extend your life compared to non-readers. If a man has books in his home, he might be a keeper.

Not only does reading show a man is more cerebral than the average guy, but it also gives some personality to his home. If he has carefully curated bookshelves, he might be a rare man.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.