
On certain people who take up all the space and leave nothing behind.
Someone full of themselves doesn’t seem empty.
They seem abundant.
They talk a lot, take up space, and have an opinion on everything. At first glance, they seem almost overflowing with life.
And then you watch a little longer.
And you start to notice that nothing gets in. Everything they say was already there before you walked into the room. The world around them leaves no mark. Not your word. Not your silence. Not whatever is happening outside the window.
Everything bounces off.
There’s nothing there to receive it.
This isn’t the emptiness of someone who has nothing. It’s the emptiness of someone so full of themselves that there’s no room left for anything else. Not for another person. Not for doubt. Not for change.
Not, in the end, for themselves.
Because what they call themselves stopped being alive a long time ago.
Became a fortress.
You see this before you can say what you’re seeing.
You see it in the way the conversation goes nowhere. In the way, the person in front of you doesn’t hear, even while listening. In that slight tiredness that stays after the meeting, not because it was hard, but because nothing actually happened.
The saddest part is that these people don’t suffer.
Or don’t know they suffer.
In their world, things are mostly fine. They’re full. What more could they need.
Maybe just one crack.
One doubt.
One, I don’t know.
Someone else’s pain that might move them.
But there’s no crack.
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