Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt believes women yearn to be find men who will be open to her in 3 ways.
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I’m sitting flush beside my client, sipping coffee at Romancing the Bean in Burbank, CA. We’re doing our session in public making it even more edgy. He said he knows how to shut off his sexual energy down to a Zero, and how to bring it at a 10. Yet he has no clue how to be a 3-5… how to let a woman know in this coffee shop that he’s interested in her, in a noble badass way. In the past, he’s either put in the friend zone, or rejected for coming on too strong.
While I’m clearly not a man, I FEEL what it’s like to be with a man with exquisite precision.
1. Their Eyes: They either SEE me as a piece of meat or a work of art by the way they look at me or through me.
2. Their Heart: They either FEEL safe, kind, grounded and present or scattered, hesitant, unsure of themselves and thus not trustworthy.
3. Their Pelvis: My body either FEELS like it can exhale, open, soften and get juicy, or literally my vagina turns into perma kegal, contracts, withdraws and feels preyed upon.
Unfortunately, 100% of my clients can’t see their blind spots. (I can’t see mine either, that’s why I have a coach, too.) These men have NO IDEA how they’re really coming across to women, and also no idea how to change it. Yet there’s something magical about a kind, non judgmental unconditionally loving Muse/Coach like myself that provides a safe, knowing and delicious space for them to sit in the fire and discover what I call their noble badass within. I believe it’s within every man.
Once awakened, it makes men want to give their jacket to her on a breezy afternoon, makes them want to put their firm hand in the small of our back, makes them want to buy that special dark chocolate we love and watch us radiate with joy out every pore of our body. It’s not just the actions. Just like a man can’t read a line from a book and expect to truly engage a woman. It’s an embodiment. It’s that “it factor” that makes a woman want to know you and makes herself want to open up to you.
I love men. God I love my son. And I’ve learned to forgive my son’s father. And my Dad. It’s been no small feat. I have every right to be a bitter crunchy bitch. Yet learning to open my heart the moment my mom was pronounced dead, or the moment my newborn son was placed on my breast, even though my legs were splayed for all of creation to see while birthing the placenta… I chose to keep my heart open and savor the exquisite pain or bliss of the moment.
Thus with my coach, I’ve sat in the fire and healed trauma. Now I can keep my heart open no matter what when I help heal my client’s wounds, paving the way for them to touch the Peace of Eternity within. It’s a privilege to see a King emerge. It’s friggin’ glorious and breathtaking to behold.
Emasculated hearts can be healed. Presence, grounded confidence and freedom after a painful divorce, unfair custody battle or crushing heartbreak is totally possible. All you have to do is chose it and show up for the journey.
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My experience working with Allana (she has been one of my coaches for the past 3 years 🙂 ), is that she will love you to pieces, provide you the space where you can show up with your full masculinity, as well as helping you to cultivate your inner king, and sexy badass-ness!
I am glad I have had the pleasure of working with her. She is, and continues to be a powerful coach, and is an inspiration.
I love you Allana!
Alana I think you are right.
It sounds like you are a good coach.
As you say, most men WANT to do this to a woman, but has no idea how he’s coming across. (Or why his actions are interpreted a certain way, when another guy’s same actions are interpreted as the polar opposite…) I also think most men actually WANT to give their jacket to that special one on a breezy afternoon, want to put their firm hand in the small of our back, want to buy that special dark chocolate. And a lot of men also do that without getting much joy in return. I don’t think you have to be “awakened”… Read more »
“All you have to do is chose it and show up for the journey.”
Yes, anything is possible. Even what you are asserting.
But, perhaps like myself, many men have simply concluded that the journey is no longer worth taking. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I have opted for the road less traveled.
L’Chaim!
Jules
That is why God created cats……
That is also why God created man’s best friend (a dog).
Yes I agree.
4, Their wallet. Because a broke man isn’t getting love.