NON EXSTENT THREATS
Do you make plans frequently to avoid negative consequences? Do you immediately retreat when you are surprised by bad news? Are you stressed about an imaginary future which might not happen?
It’s not your fault. Humans evolved to be this way.
SURIVAL OF THE FITTEST
For a millennium we had very dangerous environments. The next ravine could flood instantly and sweep away our families. The next movement through tall grass could spell disaster. A big cat was waiting to pounce. Walking under a tree could spell disaster from above.
Falling asleep in the open could result in other primates attacking us without warning. Something as simple as water was to be approached with caution. Whether it was an alligator waiting to strike, or an unknown pathogen plotting to give us dysentery, most of human history offered nothing but threats.
Over the last 1.5 million years our instincts have told us to beware of everything to survive our environments.
SURIVAL OF THE NON-IMPULSIVE
Today’s environments are different. With today’s movement of extreme feminism (the need for absolutely no man) and the reluctance of extreme manosphere (complete abandonment of marriage) an obvious trend is emerging.
Today’s independent movement is not producing children. They are waiting increasingly longer wait times to get married, if at all, and if marriage happens at all — it is failing rapidly. The culture of hyper individualism, driven by the fear of being vulnerable to another human being, has produced an absolute crisis in birth rates. The United Nations came out with a report to raise an alarm over this crisis.
I discuss the effects of Hyper Individualism at length in a published article in Hello Love for those who want more clarity on this subject.
A prominent psychoanalyst, Erica Kamar, stated on a recent episode of Diary of a CEO, “Today’s society is suffering from massive emotional dysregulation issues and narcissistic disorders.”
Erica Kamar is a parenting expert and psychoanalyst who uses over 30 years of research to challenge the societal norms on parenting. Erica believes in something called, “Maternal Feminism” and reserves the right of choice.
She has been overly critical of extreme feminism. I am overly critical on manosphere talk about needing no woman. We both need each other, and any argument contrary is absolute nonsense. Same sex couples are not exempt. Everyone needs someone. The survival instinct (or impulse) that is driving people apart, due to fear that another’s imposition will somehow hurt us in the long run, is destroying our species.
INSTICTS WHICH DON’T SERVE US TODAY
It’s not the progressive left’s fault. They are not to blame for millions of years of evolution. Our instinct evolved to perceive threats. What psychological studies have found is if a human is given a perfectly safe environment, humans will search for threats where there are none.
Predictive coding is a theory which explains how our brains need to constantly generate predictions. If you give a human mind a sterile environment, without any upcoming sensory input, the mind will still draw upon future negatives based on past experiences or stored knowledge. Without us recognizing these errors to make false (or imaginary) predictions a “prediction error” signal will generate.
As Marcus Aurelius once said, “We suffer more in our imagination than we do in reality.”
Essentially, most worry in the absence of evidence. So much so that if left unchecked we will self-sabotage, provoke arguments or create emotional issues to confirm our imaginary predictions to offer our minds’ manufactured evidence of an imagined future event.
We live in, arguably, the safest environment in human history. Most environments are largely domestic. The biggest issues concerning developed western countries (outside of health and finances) are largely emotional. If our health and wealth are okay…our emotional relationships must not be — as the mind would make us think.
I think most people suffer from their instincts in this category. The largest threat to our health (for women emotional) and wealth (men their finances) happens to be each other.
EVOLVE OR DIE OUT
I think we can see there is a strong argument for getting rid of negative forecasting when it comes to love. It’s contributing to the reduction of our population, crisis in social security (not enough young people to pay for old people) and extremely traumatic children who lack both parents.
From my research, it appears the only people reproducing are ultra conservative, traditional religious people who hold onto what the other side says is “irrational backwards conservatism”.
Clearly, these ultra conservative people are experiencing all the same fears as everyone else. The difference is they marry and have families anyway. If this trend continues the “progress” the far left celebrated will simply collapse due to their inability to have offspring. As we know, from numerous psychological studies, children tend to mostly keep their parents’ values (within a bell curve distribution).
I’m not arguing for what type of marriage to have. I’m arguing for life time marriage period. There’s a difference.
If we want to pass on our traits we’re going to have to stop viewing each other as threats or problems we can simply remove by divorcing one another over emotional differences. The extreme of feminism and manosphere must adjust. If they don’t it appears those that fail to adjust will simply die out in a form of extinction. Not all forms of extinction need to be violent. Sometimes that specific subset of species just fails to have babies anymore. That’s exactly what a lot of people appear to be doing today.
I’m not advocating for anything other than,
“Why don’t you wait and see before jumping to conclusions. You don’t know what tomorrow will bring. So just let tomorrow come and address it if it even comes. The only thing worse than stress is stressing yourself over something that will never happen.”
IN CLOSING
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Success requires us to unshackle from our instincts. We cannot expect to get rid of impulses which evolved over millions of years. We should, however, expect to recognize them. Pause before reacting. You will find most of your emotional instincts are not designed for your current environment.
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller, Award Winner of the December 2024 prestigious International Impact Book Awards — a premier award program dedicated to celebrating and recognizing the exceptional work of authors around the globe and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. He is also a Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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