What Will She Value Most on Valentine’s Day?
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Ready or not, Valentine’s Day is here again.
Do you welcome it? Do you dread it?
Should you join the party? Well, of course! You must! Even if you think the one you love wouldn’t care if the day passed by unnoticed, Society and She both expect it. The rest of us will advertise and post and chide to ensure you don’t forget.
Nevertheless, your mind may already be responding: “But ‘every day’ is Valentine’s day.”
Hmm. Do you make dinner every night, do you do what’s needed to demonstrate she’s special, do you get time together every weekend?
“I don’t do commercial holidays.”
Yet you probably do Christmas; it’s unlikely you ignore Mother’s Day.
Entrepreneurs sell what the crowd demands. It’s January, yet Easter eggs are already available. Accept that the flow is happening. But choose your own path through it.
Due to Valentine’s Day, card makers will sell over 100 million romantic messages in February and eager fresh-flower sellers will also profit much from love’s blooming need. Of course, women everywhere know the day is coming, too. They’re waiting.
On this day, at least, you will remember to say you love her.
You might willingly spend up large and celebrate wildly, you might also wince while handing over far too much for a single rose somewhat past its best. But you’ll still buy one, even if you regret the exhortations to spend money. You’ll do it because “everyone does,” because it’s “expected.”And we’re in the selfie age — your gift might be bragged about on Instagram. You better get a good one.
If we’re the partners, husbands, or sons we could be, we won’t only honor those we love on February 14. But this event does give us a good excuse to do it, don’t you agree?
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How can you make Valentine’s Day special?
You have to craft a message from her Valentine. But what should you send or say? Women like it when we romance them. But making the wrong move signals ignorance about what matters. Wine and chocolate may not take her breath away.
Make an effort to talk about your feelings for her.
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Everyone has different needs; there are also many ways to say “I love you.”
And the more you know your target, the better you can aim. Would she appreciate your presence while you watch a movie, or simply talk together, more than the flowers your PA picked up for you to bring home? Maybe your partner values most the affirmations about your relationship you give her face to face.
A perfect Valentine’s Day gift could be your undivided attention for a while.
What are you planning? How well do you think you know her?
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Woo her with words and work.
Some women like to hear about your love. Why not write a poem? Of course you can, even if you need to get a little help. You can also record a message and send it to her. If she likes attention, a video post of you talking cute things into a phone will certainly get some.
Why not just sit down and make an effort to talk about your feelings? “When I first saw you, I…”
You could also lift some burdens. Which of us would not like that? Cleaning can always be squeezed in here or there, regardless of your schedule. All you need is the desire to communicate your love in a way she’ll hear. And if having the dinner cooked or washing hung says that, then do it. You can always get a mate over to help you make a difference. Then do his place. You and three mates could make four partners very happy on Valentine’s Day – it’s a Sunday in 2016 – with an hour spent cleaning in each house.
On the other hand, she may want to literally feel your presence.
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Tantalize her with time and touch.
Almost every woman loves attention. Your mere presence might be enough to fill her cup. If you know that, show it this Valentine’s Day season by spending extra time with her.
Time is your most precious resource. Is she worth it?
Communicate your feelings this Valentine’s Day in a way she’ll really hear.
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Where is it she loves to be?
Is it possible to organize a surprise walk or drive there?
Moments together provide some of our most poignant memories as we age. What about seeing a movie you know she’d like, even if you won’t.
Does she like to be held, hugged, or caressed? Whatever your words for the types of touch, some people crave them and touch can say “I love you” louder than almost anything. Massage, if you’ve never done more than a shoulder squeeze before, and take the time to look up some techniques, will be a gift she’ll remember for a long time.
You could also wash her hair, unless she has a weave in – and you’d know that. Wouldn’t you?
It may not be enough, of course. Perhaps you realize your presence won’t be appreciated in the same way as your presents.
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Does she love red roses, or chocolate with cherries?
If you arrive home or to a date without “stuff” she may be sad. Sometimes a gift says “I love you” like nothing else will.
If so, and if you cannot make it, you’ll probably have to buy it. Does your budget rule? If you just want cheap candy and budget blooms, the supermarket will be your friend, though it will offer far too many choices.
But why not be adventurous? How far past flowers and chocolates do you dare to go?
Your love message becomes a personal creation if you ignore the pre-written cards and buy a blank one to write your words. Wrap it with lots of curly ribbons. Or don’t. Some like frills and some do not.
There’s a thousand ways to be creative; just have fun. Through the internet, or in the copy shop — you can order a personalized mug or cap. If you can’t resist getting chocolate, hand pick a few hand-made ones and put them in the mug.
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Most of us say we “hate commercialism.” Despite that protestation, it’s an easy out to just run in somewhere and whip out a wallet.
Tick. And done.
Resist. Be bold. Communicate your feelings this Valentine’s Day in a way she’ll really hear.
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—Photo Brian Rinker/Flickr
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