Traveling is all about flexibility.
There hasn’t been a single trip that went exactly as planned. That’s just impossible and if you’ve found the secret formula to doing that, please let me know.
Since 2019, my girlfriend and I have traveled a couple of times. (Zürich, Vienna, Brussels, Bern, Interlaken, Grindelwald, Paris).
It’s all been amazing.
“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.”
But if you’re having a new relationship traveling together can be quite tricky.
Many couples tend to fight on their first holiday and then end it.
Here’s how to be more flexible.
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Planning is key to being flexible
Traveling is about relaxing, not stressing.
There’s enough stress in your daily lives already so why bother stressing about the things that should be fun?
If you plan your trip, there’s less stress.
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”
There’s a plan you can rely on when you don’t know what you need or want to do.
Using a format where you know where you’re going but not what you’re going to do works fine. We usually decide what we’re going to do one or two nights before.
For my previous trip, I planned the trip about 1 month in advance.
We went by train and obviously, there were a lot of delays when traveling by train. Nothing goes on time and that’s something to take into account.
When you’re prepared for this, you’ll be more flexible.
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Doing a bit of both
As always in a relationship, you have to learn to compromise a bit. Do what you both like.
Likewise during vacations and when you travel. If you only do what you like you are guaranteed to get into disagreements, and arguments and that takes the fun right out of the vacation.
You’ll see that if you do a little bit of both, you’ll also grow towards each other.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
Love is like a muscle, you can exercise it and the more often you travel together, the worse you melt into each other’s interests and customs.
My girlfriend and I have been on vacation together so many times now that it makes some sense to do the things we enjoy together.
But there are also things we think of doing separately from each other. She often comes up with activities in the city and around downtown and I come up with some fun trips to the more nature-like places where there are few people.
I’m really a nature person.
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Final thoughts
There are some things to consider, though:
- Don’t cross your own boundaries and do what makes you happy.
- Make sure not to stress while traveling; you travel to relax.
We should also stop to romanticize the “digital nomad” life. Sure it’s fine and amazing when you can do it but it’s not the standard.
Even though I would want it.
“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”
— Amit Ray
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