Things To Do Before Concluding Love Is Not for You

I know love could be a hard nut to crack sometimes.

You might have had several heart-crushing encounters a few times, or you might be another hater of love.

If you haven’t ever been in a relationship before. Then, you should not think of excluding yourself from the most pleasurable feeling known to humans — To be in love. No matter what your negative thoughts are about love. Never rule out love so easily.

NB: This article is for every gender type but specifically for young females who have pre-decided that love is not an idea they would embrace all their lives.

Take this along with you to being forever single or in entanglements that are far away from being married. Before you finally decide that love is not for you. You have to try these few nuggets.

#1 Ask the questions

It should be the first thing to do. Don’t just assume and proclaim serendipity to your selfless heart when you haven’t asked yourself the required questions.

What question do I fuss about so much?

Ask yourself;

Do I want to be alone forever?
Do I wish not to feel that sensation of wholeness forever?
Will I be okay with not having a partner all my life?

Your idea of not being in love might be to maintain your name and privacy and not change your last name.

That means you merely want to be single because you don’t want marriage. Apart from that, ask yourself if you wish to be in an entanglement.

Or maybe you want to keep hoarding friends with benefits or open relationships.

After all the factors tied to the questions, if your answer remains yes. Then you’ve just done the first thing you should do before concluding that love is not for you.

#2 Tune in to love media

Listen to Love Podcast, read true-life love confessions. I know it sounds unreal that such a task would work for you. But Hey! You never know what will.

After trying it out, if you find yourself astonished by this task, you must be a cold war wager against love.

It really might not be your fault. It could be a result of the company you keep.

You know that immediately you listen to such podcasts or read such true-life stories of lovers.
You will hear stories of people who have had it worse than you. People who have been heart smashed or worse. But still found their ways to being loved.

Well, once you have this feeling, don’t deceive yourself. Erase the idea of not finding love because you sure do love the idea and might someday be swept out of the way. If you want to conclude and start your singleness journey, you need to try listening to and engaging with love in the media as a test of your so-called love for not being loved.

#3 Engage with folks with the same idea

Immediately, you engage with friends that carry the same thoughts about not being loved forever.

People who believe love is not for them, you can quickly determine if it’s what you want or not.

Being with them will mean

More one-night stands.
More unintentional homosexual outings.
More encouraging thoughts and comments about their fate.

While in all of these gatherings, if you feel like they are a bunch of sad folks. Then this shouldn’t be something you want to do. Don’t make that suggestion; you don’t want to be like your humor-dead friends.

If you don’t have one friend who shares the same idea. A friend who feels love is not also for them. Then do not yet assume it’s not for you.

#4 Give it one more try

Yes, the outcome could be awful. But you would never know if it would be otherwise if you don’t try. Right?

That’s why you should try it one more time. Just one more time, before finally deciding it’s not for you. In the same way, life can be terrible for a long while before being positive. That is how love can be too.

It could be frustrating sometimes. Yes, you may be deceived a few times by the one you thought could have been yours forever.

But this shouldn’t stop you from giving it one more go. Your entire love story could benefit from one more test. Life might also be tired of playing that prank on you. Your shining armor or beaming jewel might be around the corner.

Also, if you have never been in love before, you should give it a try. Just try to reply to that boy who has been on you for a while. He might be the wackiest candidate yet, but guess what? Good things lurk around in the funniest places.

Lastly, you should also try to share your time with close friends who might already be in love. That might help spark the lights in you. But if that also doesn’t do the magic, then true love might not just be for you.

I believe we are all free to make our own life decisions. You don’t have to be in love to be happy as a grown-up. Entanglements could be your thing. Do whatever you please and live a happy life.

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