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If you scour the internet to discover strategies for overcoming adversity and setbacks, you will find that many actions can be taken to turn your life around if you ever find yourself in a rut. One such action — that I put to the test recently — is to branch out socially.
Branching Out Socially
Recently I went to dinner with friends I haven’t spoken to in a while. I find that when I’m in a rut, I become accustomed to a social routine: everyday its the same thing, same places, with the same people (sometimes no other people). While there is nothing wrong with having a routine, routines still need to be broken every once in a while. I often find myself choosing isolation over companionship, the other night I decided to try something different.
Better Man
The main reason behind me branching out socially is because I have now learned that one of the biggest mistakes I made in the past was not understanding that “the person” I am has a more significant impact on my life than anything else.
For instance, with women, I thought that saying the right thing, dressing in fancy clothes, or losing weight would automatically lead to more success in my dating life. While those things added value to my life, I now realize that who I really am — on the inside — plays a bigger role than any of those superficial fixes.
Instead of focusing solely on superficial fixes, I have chosen to focus on becoming a better man — doing things like eliminating bad habits (like not branching out more), constantly improving myself (by setting goals), and recognizing self-deception habits (like not having confidence in myself).
Going out to dinner with friends I hadn’t hung out with in a while is part of my process for continuing to becoming a better man. I choose to push myself to become better because I find that the people in life that are always working to improve themselves have massive success, while the people who aren’t, merely stumble through life.
Instead of waiting for things to change, successful people go out and create that change.
If there is one lesson I want anyone reading this article to take away from it, it’s that if you get rid of the idea that someday you’ll just “arrive,” into the life you want, that you’ll just become a better person, you will open up room to improve. It is through being open to growth and never-ending improvement that I will become a better man and turn my life around.
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A version of this post was published on BlogWithDarnell and is republished with the author’s permission.
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