The search for true love has never been the same since online dating became a fast growing trend. It’s now as simple as installing an application on your phone, creating a profile, and swiping right to find a match.
However, online dating profiles don’t provide a clear picture of someone’s background. This is why a lot of users get surprise discoveries from the person they’ve been communicating with online.
Knowing the person behind the profile is an essential approach before deciding whether or not to have a commitment with them. You need to identify what their intentions are and what values they are looking for in a partner.
According to the statistical report published by Statista, only 33% of women worldwide are currently using online dating applications or sites as of 2020. However, it’s safe to assume that most women try their luck in finding a suitable partner with the values they believe are essential in creating and maintaining a healthy relationship.
No woman is identical in terms of the kind of man they want to spend their lives with, but one thing they have in common is that they are specific as to what kind of men they want to maintain healthy connections with.
Dr. Suzanne Degges-White, a licensed counselor, supports this claim through a study in which she found that women, from ages 18 to 75, need men with the exact qualities they’ve been seeking.
Women don’t need romantic partners who spend more time in the gym to improve their masculinity or to add value to their supposedly heroic image. They’re just looking for men who are willing to meet them halfway and treat them with equal respect.
As such, here are some of the common values that women seek in men:
Integrity
Integrity is the consistency of a person in everything that they do, resulting in a strong moral character.
Women prefer a man who is honorable, just, and principled. What makes integrity impactful in a relationship is that it helps strengthen the connection a man shares with a woman.
Also, the moral uprightness of a man guides his demeanor and helps him to be the ideal partner that he can possibly be.
Lastly, integrity can be manifested in the relationship through the fairness and kindness a man gives to his partner.
Trustworthiness
Knowing a man who possesses honesty and trustworthiness leaves an appealing and desirable image to a woman.
Women believe that a man who shows dependability, truthfulness, and genuineness is worth pursuing. These associative qualities of trustworthiness help strengthen a relationship.
After all, the long-term expectancy of a relationship is evident if both parties involved can rely on each other.
Confidence
It’s a great thing to know when a man believes in himself, knows who he is as an individual, and goes after what he wants. With that being said, women find it appealing because it can be reflective of how a man carries himself.
However, it’s important to distinguish the difference between being comfortable and egocentric. In simple terms, a man doesn’t need to belittle others to lift himself up or compete with others to prove his worth.
A man who shows confidence and comfort with who he is as an individual is worthy of time; and a man who has optimistic and cheerful energy goes a long way in winning women’s hearts.
Respect
Both men and women wish for a healthy, happy, and successful relationship. And in order to achieve that, they need to treat each other with utmost respect.
No woman wants to deal with a man who treats his partner as dispensable, less worthy, or unimportant in the relationship.
Relationship experts believe that when a man demands respect and patronization in a relationship, the connection is more likely to end sooner rather than later.
A woman also recognizes the respect that a man gives to her friends and family. As such, she will appreciate a man more if he is expressive of his care and respect towards her and other people.
Emotional Availability
Women are aware that men are known to be brave, strong, and assertive. That’s why men are expected not to show vulnerability and be emotional in most cases.
However, women desire a man who is emotionally open rather than those who hide their real feelings towards someone or something.
It may seem unusual and awkward when men show their emotional side, but they are humans. They also have feelings.
Most women prefer a man who is not hesitant to express his feelings about anything that bothers him and isn’t afraid to talk about them.
Compassion
Women find it easy to be attached to a man who shows compassion and empathy in certain circumstances.
Also, women prefer a man who is willing to listen every time they need someone they can share their hopes and fears with and a man who doesn’t judge what they experience.
Showing empathy means understanding the situation without experiencing it firsthand. This allows men to sympathize with what women are going through.
Women show interest in a man if he has the ability to show care and concern for others, not just for them.
Sense of Humor
There is no need for a man to be a comedian to get the attention of women, but the ability to make women laugh through his jokes and banters is exceedingly attractive.
Dr. Jeffrey Hall, an associate professor of communication studies, asserts that when two people laugh at the same thing, they are expressing that they share the same standpoint and values.
In addition, Dr. Hall found that the more a man tries to make a woman laugh, the more likely that the woman can be romantically attracted to him.
A man who shares positivity and happiness through his sense of humor will make a woman stay by his side.
What Women Deserve
Women don’t need men to protect them from danger. They need men who act as their allies and believe that their strengths and capabilities will bring them to success.
Men need to acknowledge what women can give for the wellbeing of the relationship.
Romantic relationships established from the rise, fall, and come-and-go concepts, such as wealth and physical appearances, are usually at risk of separation, relationship coach Cindi Sansone-Braff said.
These are superficial concepts that don’t add worth to the relationship, nor do they make it last.
Most of the time, men and women want the same things in a romantic relationship; women may just want it in a different order with a different approach.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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