- Downloading Tinder to meet “friends”
- Kik app is on their home screen (KIK is not for kids)
- Accusing you of cheating first
- Their phone is glued (Magneto style) to their hands
- Suddenly start investing time into their appearance
- They have new “friend” groups that don’t involve you
- Loss of emotional and sexual connection at home
- Endless nit picking and fighting when you’ve been agreeable before
- Becoming too affectionate to assuage guilt
- Asking for new sexual things “to try”
- Being evasive as to their whereabouts
- Staying out late (or not within their normal routines)
- Secret phone conversations
- Inconsistencies in time lines
- Come home smelling different
- Doing their own laundry
- New books and new music that they never showed interest in before
- Being distant and not making an effort anymore
- Posting a “How much I love my spouse” on Facebook
- Incriminating texts and emails
- Late night texting when everyone else is asleep
- “Prank calls” from strangers
- Phone is always face down
- Having the “oh, he’s/she’s just a friend” conversation
- Buying sexy underthings
- Sneaking out of the house to make phone calls
- Weight loss
- Working long hours
- Neglecting household duties/chores/responsibilities
- Separate vacations
- Grand romantic gestures out of guilt
- Not using your “pet” names for each other
- Using new speech patterns or emojis
- Hesitating handing over phone
- Your gut
That’s it folks. Take it from a confirmed cheater extraordinaire.
You can hate on me all you want but use the list. It’s about as real as catching them in the act. And hopefully, you’re spared that horror.
Besides, it’s usually not one thing. It’s a multitude of signs to look for. With your gut leading the way.
So, if you think your significant other is cheating; they probably are. And you ain’t gonna stop the ball from rolling downhill by putting your head in the sand.
Time to face the problem.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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