Love is beautiful, but it can also be painful. Some people find sweetness in the pain, while others only find bitterness in the sweetness.
Love is like a book. You can read it over and over, but still not understand its meaning. Maybe you just aren’t paying attention, or maybe you haven’t figured out the truth. People are just people. Meeting, knowing, and loving, all draw different curves in the subtle phases of time and space.
But sometimes love is very simple. For women, all they want is a man who truly loves them.
True love never just sits on the surface. To know if a man truly has feelings for you, look for these three physical reactions.
Exposed Little Thoughts
When you’re together, he always wants to please you, but he doesn’t want to be too obvious. So he always uses some clumsy acting to cover it up.
For example, he might actually be worried about your health, but when he says it, it comes out as, “Well, who told you to stay up late? You deserve it.” He means well, but you get really mad.
Sometimes he’s really into you, but he acts like he doesn’t care at all. You tell him you have plans with another guy, and he tells you to go quickly, but he can’t help but ask who the other guy is.
He thinks his acting is good enough, but it’s actually so bad that anyone can see through it.
These little thoughts are so easy to expose because he’s full of you. It’s because he cares and loves you that he can’t always control his emotions perfectly.
As soon as it comes to something related to you, he can’t help but show it. This is a tangled and twisted look, like a kid, silly and cute.
Can’t Help But Get Closer to You
People are like that. They want to be closer to people they like. They’ll keep a distance from strangers or people they don’t know well.
Like at a party, you’ll usually choose to sit next to friends you’re closer to or more familiar with. You can say anything to them.
But if you meet a stranger, you’ll keep your distance. Especially someone you dislike. You might not even want to talk to them, and you just want to end the conversation.
It’s the same for men. When they really have feelings for you, they can’t help but want to get closer to you, to close the distance between you.
If you don’t back away when he gets closer, it shows that you don’t dislike him, and it gives him hope.
Plus, as you get closer, you’ll have more chances to talk.
Every love story starts this way. You get to know each other, you talk, you physically shorten the distance between you, and your hormones start to grow.
One day, you can shorten the distance to zero, close to each other. It means it’s almost time to harvest.
Takes the Initiative to Chat with You
If you don’t click, you don’t have any desire to talk to each other, and you don’t have any topics to talk about.
The foundation of conversation is not just whether your values align, but also how you feel about each other.
So, when someone is always cold to you, it might not be that your values don’t align, it might just be that they don’t like you.
On the other hand, if someone really likes you, they’ll take the initiative to find all sorts of topics to chat with you.
You might not be very interested in these topics, and you’ll always end the conversation quickly. But you’ll find that the other person doesn’t back down because of your coldness. They’ll still take the initiative to find you.
No one really likes to be rejected, but the reason this happens is because the other person really likes you, so they don’t want to give up. They’ll try their best to find topics to chat with you, get your attention, and slowly get closer to your heart.
Especially for men who are relatively introverted and don’t talk much, when they take the initiative to chat with a woman, it’s mostly because she’s the one they like. It makes them seem like a completely different person, and they start to become “chatty.”
There are many reasons why you don’t love someone: busy, tired, it’s for your own good, etc. But there’s only one way to show love: you just want to be with them.
It’s lucky to be liked by someone because you’re not perfect. With so many flaws, someone is still willing to give you their heart. You should learn to be grateful.
If the other person happens to be someone you like, that’s the best. Two-way love is the happiest and sweetest.
But if the other person isn’t someone you’re interested in, try to minimize the harm. When you reject them, don’t beat around the bush, and leave them some hope.
This kind of hope that has no hope will often cause more harm to the other person.
It’s not wrong to not love someone. But if you “deliberately” deepen this harm, then you’ll inevitably be suspected of playing with their feelings. Those who don’t care about love will never get true love.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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