First, it’s important to understand that all of us have a great deal more in common that we do differences. Focusing on that commonality allows us to see members of the LGBT+ community in the same light that we see ourselves — just regular people going about their lives. All of us have important people in our lives, people and family that we love, ideas, plans, and objectives. A true ally sees those for everyone and values and appreciates that those things are equally valuable to all of us.
Where does one start? Be open, be approachable, and focus on the things we all have in common. Be supportive of aspirations and welcoming of a diversity of opinions.
When meeting new people, allow them to self-identify and listen when they do. Ask, “Who are the important people in your life?” rather than, “Are you married?” “Tell me about your family” rather than assuming any particular family unit model.
Finally, allow yourself a little grace and be patient with yourself. If this allyship thing is new to you, you may stumble a time or two; it may feel awkward. Life is a journey of learning, and if this is a journey you haven’t been actively engaged with previously, it’s all new to you. Think of it as an adventure, not something to be anxious about. If you are sincere, you’ll be forgiven a misstep or two.
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This post was previously published on ILLUMINATION.
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