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Love Life Podcast – Episode Highlights
Welcome back to the Love Life Podcast. Today, we’re going to dive into a fascinating conversation with Ed Mlet on The Ed Mlet Show. This conversation was one of my favorites all year and has been handpicked by me to share with you.
Three Levels of Confidence
Ed Mlet talks about three levels of confidence: surface level, identity level, and core level. Let’s dive into each level.
Surface level confidence is how we portray ourselves and how we’re perceived by others. It’s about our appearance, tone of voice, and behavior. Ed Mlet emphasizes that this is just the tip of the iceberg and that we need to go deeper.
The identity level is what underpins our confidence. It’s about the sources of confidence in our lives, such as our skills, relationships, and accomplishments. Ed Mlet uses the analogy of a Matrix, where each square represents a source of confidence. When we identify with one part of our life, it can become an overwhelming part of our identity, making us vulnerable if it changes.
Ed Mlet suggests that if you want to know where you’re exposed, ask yourself what area of your life would destroy your confidence if you lost it. This can help you diversify your confidence sources. He also notes that validations can become mutations, where we overemphasize certain aspects of our life, making it hard to diversify.
Core Confidence
Core confidence is about how we see ourselves. The cliche is that we need to learn how to love ourselves, but Ed Mlet argues that this needs a rebranding. He suggests that self-love is not about listing positive attributes, which can be unreliable, but rather about finding a deeper, more bulletproof way to love ourselves.
The Problem with Self-Love
Ed Mlet shares his struggles with self-love and how he was frustrated with the conventional advice. He points out that if our self-love is based on attributes we have on our best day, it doesn’t account for days when we’re not perfect. He suggests that we need a better recipe for self-love.
Ed Mlet is searching for new models for self-love that are more bulletproof. He invites his listeners to join him in this search.
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