Failure is really a success. I know, right! That doesn’t sound right. But, both failure and success are only results. Any other meaning you give it comes down to you. Thomas A. Edison was known to say, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Failure was really a success in his mind.
When something doesn’t go your way, what’s the first thought that pops into your head?
Do you chastise yourself?
Or do you reassure yourself that you are growing stronger and wiser with each challenge you face?
In reality, it’s not the successes that make you a stronger, more successful person, it’s the failures.
This may sound odd, but each failure you have is actually a success.
Why do you ask?
Because it gives you the opportunity to improve, learn, and try again.
Let’s take a look at a couple of the world’s greatest failures that lead to some of the most ubiquitous inventions of our time.
Did you know that 3M’s greatest failure was inventing glue that won’t stick?
That glue became the basis for the sticky backing on the “Post-It Note.”
The scientists at Pfizer were trying to create a medication that treated high blood pressure in men.
It failed to affect blood pressure, but it had one unexpected side effect.
We now know this drug as Viagra and it’s considered one of the most successful failures ever.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that each failure you encounter will land you with immediate success.
But it’s always a stepping-stone along the way.
You Can Only Appreciate Success After You’ve Failed
Thomas Edison had an incredibly positive attitude about failure.
When he was questioned as to why so many of his experiments were failures, he responded by saying that he never had a failure in any of his experiments, rather, each experiment helped him discover another way that something would not work.
In reality, sometimes the only way to know whether you’ve succeeded is to fail.
Learning How to Deal With Disappointment
Dealing with the disappointment of failure can be tough for adults as well as for children.
But everyone experiences failure at some point in their lives and teaching our children how to deal with disappointment is a critical life lesson.
Can you imagine a young adult, either a teen or student, dealing with their first failures in the workplace?
A tantrum at any age is not appealing, never mind from an adult who should know better.
Consider the very wise words of Winston Churchill who said,
“Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”
What did he mean exactly?
Well here are three reasons why failing is a good thing:
Before you laugh, think about your childhood when you didn’t get something right the first time.
What did you do?
Tried again and again!
Especially if it was something you valued greatly.
Each time the thought in your head was, “I am going to get it right this time!”
What better motivation do you need?
No one is perfect, sometimes we need to be reminded of that very fact!
Can you imagine a world where no one ever failed and we all walked around thinking we were God’s gift to the world?
Success makes you feel good, but failing teaches you a lesson.
Think back to the first time you learned to walk (might be a difficult one, so ask your parents if you still have them around), attempted to tie your shoelaces, or tried to eat with a fork.
Did you do it right the first time?
Of course not.
Did you figure out with each failure what you were doing wrong?
Well if you can walk, tie your shoelaces and eat with a fork then I guess you did!
Failure brings positive change and success to those who are resilient.
The question is, are you willing to be resilient enough to stick it out and learn the lesson and be better for it next time?
This post was previously published on therelationshipguy.com.
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