A lot of handsome guys lead mediocre dating lives. By that, I mean they’re only able to attract women who aren’t that good-looking or special.
In most cases, they’ll find someone to date by virtue of their appearance. But not the women they really want.
This is especially common once young men step out of college or university. A lot of pretty-boys have trouble attracting grown women in the adult world.
This can be tough when they’ve spent their teens and early twenties hearing how hot they are.
In this guide, we’ll explore the most common reasons why handsome men fail to attract great women and how they can turn things around.
1. They Never Had To Work On Themselves
Pretty-boys have it easy in college and university. It’s the easiest time of your life to make friends. Hot guys meet women through their classes and college parties — and will often become ‘popular’ based purely on their looks.
Student girls are more prone to date pretty-boys who have little else going for them too. This is partly because it’s normal for teens and young adults to be shy, awkward and broke.
That all changes in the adult world. Suddenly, women want the whole package. It’s not as cool to be the hot guy in a dead-end job. It’s not as cute to be good-looking, shy and awkward. You have to be the guy who can attract, entertain, protect and provide for her.
Handsome guys rarely see this coming in their teens and early twenties. Dating comes easy for them, so they see no reason to work on themselves. Sure, some might join a gym or study hard to get a good job. But it’s rare they even think about working on their social skills. Why would a young guy do that when women throw themselves at him?
Typically, it’s the less attractive guys who are inspired to work on themselves from a young age, because they’re the ones getting NO action in college.
2. They Never Had To Learn To Cold-Approach Women
You’ll never build a social circle as large as when you’re in college or university. Good-looking student guys will meet hundreds of girls through their classes, or through mutual friends.
Most never learn how to smoothly cold-approach a woman, because they get so much action through warm-approaches at college and university. It’s even less common in this new ‘woke’ era of toxic masculinity and #MeToo accusations. If they’re brave enough to try it, they usually fall flat on their face.
Instead, most guys decide to rely on dating apps or for opportunities to pop up in their social circle.
The problem is: dating apps stack the odds against men. Most top-tier women don’t use them seriously, and are overwhelmed with attention if they do. The best that most male Tinder users can hope for is a Plain Jane. The majority don’t even find that.
Meanwhile, social circle opportunities tend to be few and far between for most men after graduating. They’d have to be really lucky to meet their perfect woman at work, for example.
As such, most good-looking guys have NO IDEA how to consistently meet amazing women once they leave higher education.
3. They Don’t Want To Ruin Their Reputation
The ego plays a huge role in stopping handsome men from approaching women they don’t know.
Most of these guys are desperate to hang onto their reputations as ladies’ men. To their college buddies, they’re still the stud who hooked up with the hottest girls. They want to keep telling themselves they’re that guy.
Often though, this attitude will stop a man approaching a woman he finds attractive. It’ll shatter his ego if she rejects him.
For this reason, most good-looking men avoid approaching women unless they spot a clear sign of interest. Even then, they may still only approach in a half-hearted way and give up at the first sign of resistance. This is how desperate they are to avoid a hard rejection.
A guy like this will only push things forward with women who throw themselves at him. But it’s rarely the most desirable women who’ll do that.
4. Handsome Guys Are People Too
That means they’re still susceptible to the awful mainstream advice about approaching women.
It’s still possible they had messed up childhoods. They could still suffer from social anxiety. They might still have insecurities that prevent them from making romantic connections.
Most importantly, they’re still prone to the social conditioning that teaches men to be less masculine. The majority of modern young men are weak and sloppy with poor social skills. Handsome guys are no exception. In fact, they’re more likely to become that because they had little incentive to improve themselves when they were younger.
Meanwhile, women are thriving in the workplace and expecting to date more than just a pretty face with a half-decent salary.
Dating is tougher for everyone these days. Good-looking men included.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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