Whenever a guy starts pulling away, the most common advice we get is to go no contact and pull back all your energy to make the man chase.
But have you ever been in a situation where despite making no contact, the guy didn’t care?
That must have hurt, right?
But why does this happen?
Why does no-contact work for some women but does it work for others?
It’s not that complicated.
There Are Only Two Reasons Why No Contact Didn’t Work For You
1. The Guy Doesn’t Care About You
Let’s get the most obvious reason out of the way.
If a guy doesn’t care about your absence, he doesn’t care about you. Period. There’s no other explanation.
No, he’s not going through a “tough time”. Don’t try to justify his behavior.
Unless something actually difficult happens, like if he lost his job or someone close to him, his nonchalance simply means he doesn’t care.
You might think “He’s not uninterested. He just doesn’t know how to communicate properly.”
That might be true.
But ask yourself, this is a grown man, are you willing to be his mom and teach him basic communication?
And honestly, even if he’s bad at communicating, I think guys go after things that actually care about. No matter how difficult it is.
2. You Didn’t Give Him A Reason To Miss You
Now let’s talk about another point that doesn’t get talked about enough.
In order for a guy to miss you during no-contact, you need to give him something to miss.
Think about it. You have so many friends. And sometimes over the years, you lose touch with them. But how many of them do you actually miss?
And why do miss some of them while you don’t even remember the rest?
It’s because of the value they add to your life in the form of their energy, vibe, actions, words, moments, etc.
So now imagine the same with your guy.
If you never complimented him.
Never gave him love.
Never showered him with care and attention.
Never made him laugh.
What will he even miss when you are gone? There is nothing to miss.
You might not be doing this intentionally.
Some people (including me) are really afraid to show emotions.
We don’t want to come across as needy and vulnerable.
But honestly, you can’t expect someone to be intimate with you if you always have a wall around you.
A self-respecting man will walk away the moment he senses you are not interested.
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