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Doesn’t this aggravate the crap out of you? You meet a guy. You like him and you think he might be worth a shot and he likes you too, right?
Well, maybe not.
You don’t know because he blows hot and cold. He keeps you hanging but doesn’t pull the trigger. He keeps texting you but doesn’t ask you out.
Why does he keep contacting me?
A few reasons might be:
You’re on deck
Of course, right? You are his #2. His girlfriend, or wife for all you know at this stage, has been boring him lately, and he’s thinking he might need a break from her. He figures if he can keep you hanging long enough, he can keep his options open.
He’s clueless
I was that guy. I thought I wanted a girlfriend, and I did around the holidays and when I lost my cat Tucker, but then summer came along and my friends wanted to party in Boston.
YEE-HAAA! Relationship Gregg was gone and I was single. Then, I got lonely again. I texted whoever I was ‘sort of’ dating at the time…yep, I was clueless.
Ego
Guys and their egos. Many sense a woman might like them so they keep them around through text even though they are not serious. It keeps what little confidence they have in check.
Why Is He Texting Me If He’s Not Interested and What to Do
So how do you handle his ass?
Confront him
Get in his face! Text him. Call him on the phone and be crystal clear about where you stand. Do it in a way that fits your style, but do it!
Tell him to stop texting you unless he is serious. Then, tell him that his window of opportunity is quickly closing. Smile if you want as the words roll off your tongue but tell him!
You are a high-value woman and a high-value woman waits for no man who can’t make up his mind about what he wants within a reasonable time frame.
Forget the “Oh he will come around” or, “Maybe I need to change a few things to draw him in” crap.
Screw him! Time is too precious and there are too many great men out there to be bothered by some guy you hardly know that keeps texting you when he’s not interested.
I am amazed at how much time wonderful women waste on guys who aren’t even in their league.
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Previously published on whoholdsthecardsnow.com and is republished here under permission.
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