Maggie was left perplexed when Rick suddenly changed his behavior.
He had put in a lot of effort to win her over on their first two dates, and she was thoroughly impressed by him.
He was considerate, polite, kind and focused. But just as she was starting to develop feelings for him, he suddenly withdrew and she found herself chasing after his attention.
Why do men do that? Why do men shut women out?
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Many women find themselves in a confusing situation where a man pursues them intensely, but once he wins their attention, he withdraws.
Men often come on strong during the chase, but once they’ve captured the interest of the woman, they lose interest.
What gives?
Look, Dating can be challenging, it can be exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking.
In the beginning, the focus is on the chase, where the man is trying to capture your attention and you’re evaluating if he is worth your time.
During this phase, both parties are fully invested in the pursuit, without thinking about what will happen next.
And then, the pursuit changes.
You have feelings for the man and now that he has your attention, he needs to think about the possibility of committing to a serious relationship. Does he want one?
It is likely that he wants a serious relationship, otherwise he would not have pursued you.
But, wanting it and being fearless enough to really go after it are two different things.
What should a girl do when faced with a man who pulls away after chasing her? I’ll start by telling you what not to do.
Avoid These Two Common Mistakes
First, Don’t assume that his pulling away is a reflection of your worth. He was interested in you before you reciprocated those feelings, and it’s likely that he still is.
Second, Avoid applying pressure on him. Many advice columns suggest playing hard to get, but this approach may not be the best.
Instead of playing hard to get, make your interest in him known in a way that is not overwhelming or pushy. For example, don’t send him text messages every hour as that may come off as too much.
Men may pull away and become distant in a relationship due to feeling nervous about losing their freedom of choice.
Don’t change, be the woman he fell in love with
During the initial phase of a relationship, a man is motivated by desire and attraction.
However, as the relationship progresses and the possibility of it becoming serious arises, his motivation shifts. He begins to contemplate the potential sacrifices and lifestyle changes that may come with committing to a long-term relationship.
When a man’s behavior changes after committing to a relationship, it’s often due to his fear of giving up his freedom and lifestyle.
Rather than trying to change yourself to suit him, remain confident and true to who you are.
Show him that you are the same carefree and confident person he fell in love with, and that he doesn’t need to give up his individuality in the relationship.
Avoid becoming anxious or panicked, as this will likely cause him to become distant as well.
Avoid requesting too much of his attention or suggesting that he has found a flaw in you, as this can put you in a negative mindset, which is not appealing.
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Always Assume The Best
Don’t back off completely, but don’t push too hard either.
Show him that you’re interested in him and give him the space he needs to feel comfortable with committing to a serious relationship.
A man who genuinely desires a serious, grown-up relationship will eventually come around when he sees that there is nothing to fear.
On the other hand, a man who is not ready for a real relationship was never the right match for you in the first place.
If you’re looking for a way to quickly reignite his interest and bring him back to the passionate pursuit he had in the beginning, there is a shortcut you can take.
While patience is a virtue, there’s no harm in taking action to strengthen your relationship. I recommend you try this next step.
When He Shuts You Out, Try This…
Research studies indicate that men prioritize respect over love. It is a fundamental aspect of our DNA.
Men have an innate desire to gain your respect as a way of proving themselves worthy of your love.
Understanding that men have a deep-seated desire for respect can give you an advantage in your relationships with them.
By tapping into this need, you can create a stronger connection and build a more fulfilling bond. I can show you how to use this knowledge to your advantage.
If you tap into a man’s innate desire to gain your respect, he will go to great lengths to make it happen.
The more he strives to earn your respect, the more likely he becomes to envision a long-term committed relationship with you.
And his favorite way to earn your respect?
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He wants to be seen as a hero, he wants to help you, be there for you and prove himself.
This desire is deeply ingrained in his DNA, it’s not always romantic but it’s a fundamental aspect of who he is.
Unlock the secret to his heart by tapping into his innate desire to be a hero.
Discover how to trigger this instinct and make him want to commit to you for the long-term. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to transform your relationship. Watch the video now by clicking here.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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