Every woman has a built-in radar to detect and repel “weak men”. She needs to feel safe and secure for herself and her future offspring.
A weak man is someone who:
- can’t trust himself and is easily swayed by what other people think.
- can’t cope well under mental and emotional pressure.
- can’t make tough decisions quickly.
- can’t stand his ground and defend himself against attacks.
- can’t lead but instead prefers to follow others all the time.
A woman won’t converse with you to find out what kind of man you are. This is ineffective because, in the short term, men can fake desirable characteristics to win a woman’s heart.
So, for this reason, she needs to weed out these undesirable men through a mixture of unconscious and deliberate sh*t tests.
Women’s Common Sh*t Tests
- Compliance: She wants to know if you have a backbone. Do you just do whatever you’re told without questioning? For example, without providing a reason, she might ask you to hold her handbag and carry it around like a monkey.
- Pushing Boundaries: This takes the form of unreasonable requests or demands. For instance, she might demand that you pick up the groceries late at night when there’s no urgency. Can you stand up for yourself and assert your boundaries?
- Confidence check: She might subtly question your abilities. For example, she might say “Are you sure you have that under control? “Or if you can’t do it, I can do it for you”. This is a test to see how confident you are in your decision-making. Do you doubt yourself when someone questions your decisions or abilities?
- Emotional outbursts: She will act angry or distant without any clear triggers. She wants to test your patience, ability to handle her emotional outbursts, and how you handle conflict in general.
- Insecurity: She might flirt subtly with other men to test your reaction. The aim is to know if you’re the jealous or insecure type. Do you remain confident and unfazed, or do you go through a jealous rage? It’s also a test to see how much trust you have in her and the relationship.
- Decisiveness: can she trust you to make decisions? Are you a leader or a follower? For example, if she asks you “Where are we going for dinner?” and your answer is “Ugh dunno, we’ll go wherever” it’s not attractive and doesn’t inspire confidence. You come off as a guy who doesn’t know exactly what he wants.
How to handle Sh*t Tests Like a Boss
The most important thing about handling sh*t tests is knowing when you’re being tested in the first place. This awareness brings calmness and mental clarity about how to respond.
View the interactions for what they are — just mere tests. It’s not a challenge to your masculinity or that she wants conflict just for the sake of it.
Your response is about maintaining emotional composure and projecting inner confidence.
If you have emotional outbursts, you fail these tests, show doubt, feel bullied, threatened, or show any type of weakness.
Show her your emotional stability and maturity by finding humor when faced with these tests. Respond with wit and subtle digs back. It shows you’re not a pushover and that you can stand your ground. This makes her panties moist because it proves to her that you’re a ‘real’ man.
Wrapping up
Sh*t tests get such a bad rap, but they are necessary for both men and women if they are not excessive or border on narcissism or malicious manipulation.
In most cases, they are not deliberately intended to cause harm. They are usually unconscious spontaneous actions.
Passing sh*t tests can increase the level of attraction and deepen emotional bonds because you showcase your dominant traits like confidence, leadership, assertiveness, and decisiveness.
If you handle the tests with poise it can lead to mutual respect and admiration, fostering a long-term healthy relationship.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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