Can a woman cheat and still be in love with you? Well, this is debatable, and the jury is out there. While it is not accurate or fair to generalize about why people cheat, as every individual and relationship is unique, my past experience, relationship, and conversation show that women are likely to cheat on their partner when these three things happen.
Number One
When a woman desires sexual variety. Now, if you thought sexual variety was just a man thing, you obviously thought wrong. Sometimes, the reason women cheat is sexually motivated, however, there’s always a little catch.
Most women who find themselves in this situation believe that their sexual and emotional needs are not being met in their current relationship. What tends to happen is that the women outsource the sexual pleasure in their relationships in an effort to remain or preserve their primary partnerships.
In simple English, if a woman was in a relationship in which she was unhappy and emotionally starved, she will seek the emotional attention that she lacks from a third party. Once she continues to receive the emotional gratification she’s looking for, she can remain in her loveless relationship or marriage for as long as it takes without having to forfeit her current relationship and break up her family or her partner’s heart in the long run.
However, if she continues to go without the sexual needs being met by her primary partner, well, she will have to break up or seek divorce in order for her to find happiness elsewhere.
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Number Two
When she lacks or loses love for her primary partner. Now, one of the main reasons women in this category cheat is to blow up the relationship that makes them feel trapped in some way. Often, they find themselves with a partner who seems like a nice person but is controlling, stifling, or emotionally unavailable. The woman may try to make changes to get her partner to seek, for instance, professional help or push her partner to meet her more emotionally. But when the woman doesn’t succeed in these attempts, she loses love, respect, and affection for him over time and begins to seek it elsewhere.
The unconscious narrative you’ll hear from women in this instance is often he’s a nice guy, but I’m miserable, so they can act out to end the relationship.
Many women leave their partners emotionally long before they physically walk out of a relationship. Many women begin cheating emotionally long before it becomes physical. If you keep these statements in mind, a lot of female behaviors when it comes to fidelity will become more apparent.
Studies reveal that women are much more likely than men to initiate breakups and are happier after breakups than men are.
Number Three
Situational factors. Some women who struggle with guilt over leaving a partner don’t feel their own happiness is enough justification to reach a point in their relationship where they can walk out.
She will, as a solution, find solace in cheating. For these women, cheating can feel like a way to keep their options open and ensure that they’re not hurt or abandoned. In the end, they need to feel safe, and secure, and if this is threatened, for instance, if they fight with their partner, for example, they can sometimes overcompensate by seeking validation and attention elsewhere.
To put it in other words, every time you fight or have a misunderstanding with such a woman, you may be pushing her into another man’s arms. She’ll eventually use the third party as a point of transition out of the relationship with you.
None of these reasons are cast in stone, every relationship is unique, every woman is different, and relationships are usually complicated.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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