Question: Why are women so determined to fix a guy when they start dating someone? I am content with who I am, I’m not a fixer-upper! Do all women feel this desire? What does it fulfill for them?
Answer: It’s a curious question given the blanket statement about women in general… Although I completely acknowledge that your experience with all women has been this. It must make you feel accused of being broken, not good enough, wrong, inferior, not appreciated, yes?
No, not all women want to fix men 😉 People in general who want to fix others are usually highly judgmental of themselves. And here’s the awareness that’s sometimes tough to take responsibility for… even if WE personally are not aware of the harsh judgment going on inside ourselves, one of the ways to become aware of this is to be attracted to dating judgmental people that want to fix us. The internal always creates the external.
Believe me, this was a tough pill for me to swallow given that I’m such an optimistic, kind person who works with proactive people that want to evolve and grow every day of my career… It was tough for me to acknowledge my part in attracting the conflict in my life with my ex-husband. I had to look at how superior I felt, and my lack of compassion and patience for a wounded heart, and my own harshness upon myself when I wasn’t being what I deemed as “good enough or spiritual enough.” Bottom line I discovered an element of my own self judgment that I must not be good enough for a man to honor me…being mirrored in that relationship.
Additionally my own fears of being bullied were also triggered big time… so I was asked to learn to stand up and not overreact but become unwavering in my fierce love. Let me tell you the Wonder Woman really helped me to embody Fierce Love! xox
Now back to you great man, these women that are fixing you… I get you are frustrated… yet in truth they are an invitation. Do you have an internal harsh critic that they are mirroring? Did you have a overly harsh parents that you are not fully processed or integrated about so these women are showing up as an invitation for you to heal the past? Is it like me, people are showing up that are not honoring you, and you’re being invited to stand up for yourself with fierce love and not react or blame?
If there’s a pattern of women like this, the Universe is trying to tell you something and the sooner we get the message and do the deep healing and evolve… the sooner you will attract women who don’t want to fix you at all, instead you want to celebrate you 🙂 Promise.
I encourage you to go to www.gethertosayyes.com and download my complementary training, called “How To Be A Noble Badass” if you are new to my work. If you have done that already and you are familiar with my work and still interested in a healthy intimate partnership… ask yourself if you are truly ready to sit in the fire with me and heal and change this? I encourage you to value yourself, your growth, and your future successful relationship by applying for a complementary strategy session with me to see if you’re a fit for me to invite you to move forward with coaching sessions.
Find your courage to access the part of you willing to be humble, open and noble enough to let me love you all the way to the core 😉
Great man, I sense it will be very healing for you simply to be in the presence of an unconditionally loving, nonjudgmental, feminine women… a kind, conscious woman who loves men:-) Especially after not being treated with honor and respect for a while!
I find when I work with men, this HUGE piece falls away when they recognize they are safe and honored by the Feminine… And then this NOBLE badass part of them awakens… It’s breathtaking to be quite honest. And then you’ll literally BE what it takes to attract and grow a conscious intimate healthy hot relationship 🙂
You can apply for a complementary strategy session with me at www.allanapratt.com/connect.
It would be the greatest privilege to support you in ending the pattern of unkind women… so you could more deeply come home to your grandeur and attract a radiant heart centered non judgemental woman who celebrates your glory.
Great love, Allana xox
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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