Joanna Schroeder wonders what our culture’s obsession with Ryan Gosling say about how we view men as a whole.
One of my big hits here at The Good Men Project was a piece called Objectifying Ryan Gosling… It was a reaction to a conversation that Tom Matlack and Marcus Williams were having about whether or not it’s okay to talk smack about your wife’s body, all while lusting after other women’s more perky bodies. I was even interviewed on the radio about Objectifying Ryan Gosling—both about the piece and the man himself.
Unless you’ve been on a retreat in a monastery in Nepal the last few years, you’ve probably heard the hubbub over Ryan Gosling. Star of The Notebook, Drive, and The Ides of March—as well as my personal favorite: Lars and the Real Girl. He’s it right now in Hollywood.
And maybe you’ve heard about Ryan Gosling’s feminist rant against the Motion Picture Association of America, during which he won over the hearts and minds of all of us who get gooey over the thinking man, and even more so over the socially-conscious thinking man.
As a result of this, a clever college girl named Danielle created a Tumblr page called Feminist Ryan Gosling, which I frequented heavily and shared unashamedly. It’s all sort of a joke—Gosling’s signature “Hey Girl” meme set to the words of some of the most prominent Feminist thinkers… But it’s such a great joke that now young Danielle will officially be the author of a book called Feminist Ryan Gosling: Feminist Theory (as Imagined) from Your Favorite Sensitive Movie Dude that is somehow already available for pre-sale.
I’m pretty psyched that thinking guys are getting attention for their brains and not just their bodies… but I also can’t help but wonder what the Feminist Ryan Gosling craze says about how we see guys in general. We fawn over Gosling because of his brains and his stance on women’s issues, as well as his interest in dating age-appropriate women. What’s sorta weird is that in real life, there are tons of guys everywhere just like him… Are we just not seeing them? Or are they only rare in Hollywood?
What do you, as a man, think of this whole Ryan Gosling craze? Does celebrity worship of so-called “perfect” guys damage everyday-types of guys the same way that many women feel celebrity worship of women like Angelina Jolie damages them?