In his Saturday feature, “Do Guys Fight For Their Friendships?“, GMP founder Tom Matlack challenges the notion set forth in the New York Times that asserts men, in general, do not engage in emotional conflict with one another. That instead of talking through problems, they just disengage and walk away.
Women, asserts NYT author Ben Schranck, have hard conversations, talk through their problems, and come up with resolutions.
But GMP commenter Laramie White tells his own story of how he and his friends resolve issues… and it’s far from simply walking away:
I have been close friends with 5 men since college , starting in 1975. We have lost 2 of our brothers one in 2003 and one in 2011. The last 3 of us remain close even though we are in different parts of the country now, we talk at least once per month. We also track each other through social media websites.
We never had to fight each other but sometime he had to put the hard facts out on the table when someone from our group was messing up their life. We remained close friends even if hearing the truth was painful for that person. We still supported each other through the good times and bad time. Being there when someone lost their parents or other family members. Seeing our children being born and growing up through the years.
I thank The Lord for having these other four brothers in my life. Someone to call when needing to talk. Visiting them when I traveled home to visit. Just being able to call them my friends and brother since 1975. Not being afraid to tell them I love ya man for being my friend and brother.
And so we ask all of you, is there a huge divide between the way male friendships grow and resolve problems compared to the ways female friendships do?
Are men truly so hardened as suggested in the NYT?
What traditions do you have with your friends to show your friendship? How do you resolve problems?