Sadness and happiness keep coming and going in our lives, which means neither can we stay away from sorrow nor imprison our happiness. But there is one thing we can do, and that is to be happy. But How to Be Happy All The Time? What is the way to be happy always? What’s the secret?
Happiness is inside you, not outside
Suppose a person comes to you and starts giving you an order saying that he is your boss. He tells you don’t eat this in the food, don’t wear this, do this, don’t do that. So will you obey him? Obviously, you will not listen to him. That person is taking away your freedom. So you will not listen to that person. Then why do you listen to the person who is sitting inside you, i.e., your mind?
Your being happy or your being sad is this experience, and this experience happens when you inculcate it in yourself, in your mind. If you look carefully, everything works out. But you only know how you feel. No one else can know your mind. Whatever thoughts are going on in your mind, good or bad, can I take control of those thoughts? No way. But if you allow me, I can do it. Suppose a person has left you by saying bad and good. Now it is your choice whether you allow him to sit inside. That person left after speaking. Now it depends on you whether you believe him. If you put his point inside you, then you will continue to be sad when you do not forget that thing.
Only you can decide what thoughts go in your mind, how you feel. No matter how much hustle and bustle you want outside, only you can create peace inside you. So never try to find happiness outside, you feel happy inside. Otherwise, you will keep getting sad seeing those incidents outside.
“Just as there is a technique to create happiness in the outside world, in the same way, there is a science and technology to create happiness and joy within you.” — shadguru
Learn to live for yourself too
A rich older man was counting his last breath in a hospital. Then he told that I have a lot of money, but today I can neither buy my life nor happiness with that money. The person told that he worked very hard, kept running after money, and earned a lot of money. But today I realize that I never lived for myself. Neither did I spend time with my friends, nor did I get to play with my family.
The walker on the field sees the helicopter going up and thinks that I wish I was in this helicopter and the person sitting on that helicopter thinks I wish he was running in this open field.
No matter how much money you make, if you are not happy, then all is useless. If you think you will get money, then you will be happy. You think wrong. I am not saying that one should not earn money. Money must be earned because money gives facilities, but it has nothing to do with happiness. Happiness is an uncommon thing and money is an uncommon thing.
If you want to be happy, then live for yourself too. Don’t keep your desires by medicine. Spend time with your family and friends. Work hard in your work, too, but if you work happily, then the work will be better. Try to be happy.
Find happiness in the little things
The only son of a rich father who had everything but felt that he was not happy. His father brought him everything he wanted. But he could not find happiness in anything. He became very sad.
One day, he saw his servant, who was feeding the pets dogs of that house. He saw he was feeding those dogs with great love. He was looking thrilled. He called that servant to him and said, why are you so happy?
The servant said, sir, there is no one in my house, neither spouse nor child. Both were killed in an accident, only I survived. Whenever I am with these dogs, I take care of them. I play with them, take them for a walk, I get thrilled. I think the biggest reason for my happiness is these dogs.
When that boy heard this, he started thinking, I have everything, and I cannot find happiness despite all this.
Friends, there doesn’t need to be a big reason, only then you should be happy. Happiness is not in big things, you find happiness in small things, you will definitely find them.
Learn to live in the present
My friend scolded his son a lot in front of me because he was creating a lot of evil. He even slapped that child. The child started crying in the corner and after some time he started playing again. In this way, you can see, from the point of view of a child how soon he forgot all that and started playing happily again.
If you think with your eyes closed, you know that most of the suffering has happened in your past and future — it is this which makes you feel are currently suffering. But happiness is in the present because the past has passed and the future has not yet arrived. If you want to live Happy All The Time, then you have to learn to live in the present.
Happy All The Time; In the end, I would like to say that happiness is present within you, you can only see things outside but you feel happiness or sorrow within yourself. Happiness cannot be bought, but it is born within you.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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