I don’t know about you, but I pride myself in being independent. Almost to a fault. I don’t like to ask for help.
I like the feeling of accomplishment when I’m able to do everything that needs to be done, alone. If we’re being completely honest, I also like the affirmations I get from others when they hear about everything I’m doing or just did.
As my sons have grown a bit and become more involved in activities, it’s become harder to stay in that same mentality. Add on a full-time job (which I love) and a side passion that is getting busier, and it’s almost impossible.
If you’re thinking it was an automatic switch when I realized I was drowning, you would be wrong. I held on to my pride for far too long. Too many anxiety-driven breakdowns. Too much time spent mentally berating myself for “failing.” And yes, failing is in quotes, because I wasn’t failing at all. I just wasn’t living up to my own, ridiculous expectations.
Here’s the thing: we have to learn how to, and be willing to, ask for help when we need it. We have to be willing to have the initial conversation. We have to put our own pride aside and do what’s right for our own sanity and health. We have to give up the need to control everything in our world.
It’s a work in progress. Some days are better than others. But, I’m starting to recognize the initial signs that I need help. And I’m getting better at speaking up and asking for it. And the ironic thing? I’ve been able to accomplish more and at a higher quality. In all areas of my life. Asking for help has put a stop to giving myself asinine excuses for not getting things done that I want to do.
Running a half marathon. Finishing my book. Publishing said book. Spending more quality time with my husband and sons. Practicing self-care regularly.
Asking for help isn’t just worth it; it’s a vital part of thriving in our busy world.
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