Have you ever had your life flipped upside down? Ever planned everything out to a tee and then your plans crumble? Have you ever lost something or someone that you thought you wouldn’t lose? If this is you then just know that you are being re-directed. Your re-direction may have growing pains, heartache, losses, fear and more. Wade in, stay connected to the present with mindfulness. Don’t allow yourself to hang on to a reality that no longer exists. (This is harder than it looks) Connect. Connect. Connect. With yourself. With your friends. With your Tribe. With your family. Get grounded. This ending is merely disguised as a new beginning. You get the opportunity to create a life that is totally yours, all your own. You don’t need anyone’s permission to have the dreams, goals, outlook, and passions that you have. The things that make you come alive, no one can generate the motivation to pursue, the spark must come from within. IF you rely on others to spark your life, you will be disappointed every time. Human beings as lovable as they are, are imperfect. That being said another human being can’t complete you. You must do all of the things that give you meaning and identity. Anything else is settling. In this day and age, we seek out instant gratification instead of building: relationships, interests, and personal sustainable growth.
Running away from intimacy will never remove the ache in your heart. Endings don’t have to mean a death sentence to what you thought was your life. Endings are an invitation to look at life through different lenses. When things end, look around, things may have fallen apart but ask yourself: Where are you being held together? What did you learn? What are the lessons that are prevailing throughout the ending process? Be brave and engage in life especially when it hurts. Pain is one of the greatest teachers if you allow it. Allow the painful moments to refine you. To remind you of who you really are. When everything is stripped away, all you have is yourself. Silence those voices that tell you that you can’t rebuild, grow or stretch yourself. Don’t give them any more power. Heal yourself. Breathe deeply. Embrace newness. Come alive and live life on your terms.
There is always hope.
No matter what trial you are facing, you are not defeated. When life asks much of us, you end up rising up to meet life’s challenges. Continue to show up for yourself every day. You are worth putting some serious energy into. Invest. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for all of the other relationships that you will have in this life. Cultivate self-love or people will keep showing up in your life to force you to pay attention to this area of your life. Don’t do anything halfway.
“Erase everything from the past that does not serve you, and be grateful it brought you to this place now, and to a new beginning.” Rhonda Byrne
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