Like many non-Brits, I’ve (unfortunately) been a wee bit invested in the Prince William and Kate Middleton saga. And couldn’t help but notice that a few weeks ago, a palace official announced that only one wedding ring was going to be made—Kate’s.
Although I doubt that Prince William’s choice is so that he’s trying to bag himself a mistress, many people assume that men who don’t wear their wedding rings choose to do so for unsavory reasons. In a blog post in Chicago Now, writer Jenny Milk calls men who don’t wear their wedding ring “slime”:
Now, we all know who Prince William is because he’s in the public eye—so I think it would be hard for him to pull the wool over another chick’s eyes by saying he’s single, but for the rest of us common folk … WEAR YOUR RING, MAN.
In a New York magazine article called “The Naked Finger,” Amy Sohn writes of a friend who’s unknowingly had multiple affairs with married men. “All those women out there whose husbands aren’t wearing rings should be worried. It’s never an innocent choice,” said her friend.
Milk reiterates this sentiment: “Now, I’m not saying he’s being a shadester, but unless that ring is cutting off the circulation to his finger, there’s no reason not to be wearing it.”
My mom and dad have been happily married for 25+ years. And neither one wears a wedding ring.
My father believes himself to be a “man’s man” and doesn’t wear jewelry. Ever. He’s even given up wearing a watch. My mother doesn’t wear her ring because it gets in the way while she works. My friend can’t wear a ring because he’s allergic to various metals. And I’ve noticed many people don’t wear their rings at the gym. And none of these people, especially my dad, is looking around. One thing a ring—not to mention its diamond size or carat weight—doesn’t signify is love in a marriage.
Sohn says these non-ring-wearing men are confusing the hell out of single women:
They find [men who don’t wear their rings] infuriating—precisely because they sell a false bill. I have a girlfriend who often gets in conversations with men at parties, only to have them tell her half an hour later that they’re married. She hates being misled when she could have spent her time talking to someone single.
As a non-single lady who’s been bamboozled by a guy who kept his Facebook relationship status blank, all I have to say is, tough luck. So you spent half an hour talking to a nice guy. You could have done worse things in those 30 minutes—like buying a Will and Kate refrigerator.
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23 Comments on "Guys Who Don’t Wear Wedding Rings Are ‘Slime’? Yeah, Right"
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The women that want to define me by a piece of jewelry that I might or might not wear are the very ones I enjoy p****** off.
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What a person wears is 100% their choice, choice being the operative word. If he doesn’t want to wear a ring or doesn’t like rings that’s completely his choice and his wife and anyone else should respect that choice.
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“By the way, someone who makes a decision about ever wearing a ring based on the rare possibility of dropping a ring into a patient, rather than making a decision about taking off the ring when operating, has a subtext he’s not acknowledging.”
Bullshit assertation without a shred of proof behind it.
A person who refuses to wear a ring ever under any circumstances and then claims it’s work related is highly suspect. No one is on the job 24/7 and as the previous poster stated, anyone citing a freak accident as a reason for avoiding wearing a ring symbolizing your lifelong commitment to someone is, again, highly suspect.
Is this complaint really much different from an egotistical male demand that women shouldn’t wear attractive clothing if they’re not looking for sex? I mean, if you’re not after my attention or aren’t available to me, dress in a way that is unttractive to me. Isn’t that the same basic argument?
Sorry, we don’t accessorize just to make life easier for you. My finger belongs to me. It’s my body. Your expectations and assumptions are your responsibility. Feeling misled doesn’t mean that I was out to deceive you. Effect does not prove motive. It’s possible we don’t wear rings for reasons that have nothing to do with you or your pursuit of single men.
Imagine if I wrote to a women’s issues blog and said, “I can’t believe I wasted my time talking to a woman who wasn’t going to have sex with me after all. Man, what a tease!”
What I don’t understand is, Why do women get two rings, and men only one? Seems really unfair to me.
Single or no, I wear a ring with a rainbow band across it. I think it portrays exactly the right message for me. 😉
I have absolutely no reason to tattoo, or brand my body or wear jewelry to reveal to complete strangers what my personal relationships are. It’s my business and no one else’s.
Upon hearing the story of his mentor dropping his wedding ring inside a patient during surgery without knowing and then having to deal with the ensuing infection, my dad wisely decided to never purchase a wedding ring. And given how many damn earrings I’ve dropped down the drain, it’s probably best that I as a woman don’t wear one either…
I thought the dress thing was Queen Victoria? I could be proven wrong on that. But royalty were typically the fashion trend-setters up until about seventy years ago.
Maybe? I can’t recall. I didn’t read into that tradition as much as my wedding dress was blue. 🙂