According to a number of recent studies, in relationships where the woman earns more than the man, things tend to go awfully wrong. (If that’s the case, then my chances of a successful marriage are even slimmer than I thought.)
At The Week they’ve got a roundup of a few studies showing how men are having a hard time coping with earning less.
[T]here’s still a sense—on the part of both men and women—that men should be the providers. We’re facing a whole new social moment in which women are doing better than men are. We need to encourage men to find other outlets for masculinity.
Men are having trouble dealing with these changing dynamics, and it’s hurting their marriages in the process. According to the National Marriage Project, husbands with children at home are 61 percent less likely to admit they’re “very happy” if they work shorter hours than their spouses.
According to a study from the American Sociological Association, men are more likely to cheat if their wives make more than they do. Stanford University is about to release research that shows that male unemployment increases chances for divorce. And a Rutgers study shows that high-earning men in their 50s are more likely to experience health problems if they make less money than their wives.
We know that the standard marriage as changing. And none of this is the fault of women. As men, we should probably warm up to the possibility that we might not be the major breadwinners. It doesn’t make you any less of a man, and it’s no reason to see your marriage fail. Right?