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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson
Be kind to yourself.
I’ve studied and gathered much about ways of thinking. I’ve found that believing that “positive things” will occur make that work in our favor. To stop looking for bad things that might happen–and start thinking good things will occur–is a little and straightforward shift that works wonders once you set it in place in your mind and habit. No blaming others or yourself. Keep looking at everything as an opportunity for growth.
Being a parent is not a way out of a successful life. There is no excuse for not living an optimal experience. Even if it takes some time, keep working on you.
Push yourself. If you are introverted, extrovert yourself. Even if it is for 10 minutes a day. Work up the extrovert muscle. Let yourself shine. Seriously. It feels good. Start smiling at people you don’t know. Pursue what excites you–with kids and all. Look at your kids as the stars that you have been so fortunate to have with you on this physical life journey.
Do not put life off until your children turn 18. Re-start your life now. It doesn’t matter if you have five children under the age of five. Make it awesome and get them and you into awesome mode. You would be amazed at what you can do in your life while having kids––if you believed it was possible.
Don’t beat yourself up mentally. We all have our unique purpose in life. We need to pause from the auto-pilot daily life and check out who we are and who we are becoming.
Next, know that your kids are not their behaviors. For that matter, you are not yours either. Behaviors can always change and become new forms. You first need to notice them. Stop arguing or going back and forth bickering with your kids. It takes two to argue. If you walk away from a confrontation, you have stated where you stand. Your kids need your guidance. So, begin to learn all you can to let them know the best life skills to move far when they grow.
Know that kids will experiment. Kids will occasionally lie. Do not call them liars or put them down. Kids are trying things out and need you to explain how everything works. Punishment rarely solves behavioral issues. Punishment creates resentment.
Your children are sponges. Make your life story a good one for yourself and your kids. What you say and think––you believe. Try not to let little things anger you. Don’t hold grudges. Work to remain neutral. Don’t remain upset with your kids. Don’t be upset with your mate. Discuss what is bothering you. If you have an issue with your mate, text them in the morning a love note. There is no need for non-productive drama.
Yes, your kids are indeed your purpose––but there is even more to your life to behold. Try to give your child the life you wish you had. Stop looking or waiting for permission. Stop hoping and start taking action.
Get precise on your wants and desires. Yes, you can have them–and you can attain them. What do you need? What do you need to excel and be the ultimate you? Write this down. Define your purpose. Everyone has one. Get in touch with yours.
It’s much easier to take action on your goals than to worry about them and do nothing. Decide who you are and who you want to be now. It will keep changing the more you grow. It will not change if you don’t question it. Don’t sell yourself short. Know that you are worthy of so much more than you might think.
The more you understand yourself and who you are, the more confidence you will re-discover. Make the study of yourself as your highest priority right now. Focus on being productive––not busy.
Always be sure to make time for yourself. You are more than good enough. The best and proven way to attract what and who you want? Stop being concerned about little issues–learn to detach yourself from anything that is not worth it. Strive for something bigger. Push yourself. Always be on the lookout for new opportunities that will push you further.
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
–Mark Twain
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
–William James
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