What’s a relationship if you’re never out together in public?
Dear Sexes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months… and still haven’t gone out on a date. Sure I love spending time with him around the house, but a girl can dream of a romantic night out, right? We’ve done a few group things, like going out to bars and a movie with some mutual friends, but it’s not the same. I’ve told him how important it is to me and tried to be understanding of his busy schedule, but I’m getting disheartened. What should I do? (ps – I always pay half, money isn’t a factor).
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She Said: This may be a compatibility issue. While not a major one, the party animal and the homebody conflict can cause major strife in a relationship.
- If he really cares about you, why can’t he make time for you in his “busy schedule”?
- If you’re good enough to hang out with in private, how come he can’t spend more time with you in public settings?
- If money isn’t a factor, why doesn’t your boyfriend take you out on dates?
- If money isn’t a factor, why doesn’t your boyfriend pay for some of these dates?
Originally appeared at SheSaidHeSaid.
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I agree more with the She Said part, given me and my boyfriend hardly ever go out on dates. We love being home, and not socializing a lot. If we go watch a movie, it would be for the movie, not for the date part. And we’re likely to do the same for restaurant: be there primarily for the food. Tender time is always at home, usually when watching a movie, drinking some together. It’s not about ‘not wanting to show off’, it’s about preferring to stay home and finding going out to generally be aggravating, something we often have… Read more »