People who are good at being single would tend to argue that being single is the best thing since sliced bread. Meanwhile, people who love being in a relationship think that there is nothing better than being with the one you love. But, who is right? Is it better to be single or in a relationship? Here are some comparisons to help you decide for yourself.
The Single Life
There are lots of perks to being single. For starters, you don’t have to think about anyone but yourself. You can be completely selfish! This can be a bonus, particularly when it comes to staying in all weekend to binge on Netflix. On the other hand, a weekend getaway with someone you love can be just as exciting; leaving you to catch up on your Netflix series during the week.
Another bonus for single people is dating. You get to meet new people and go out on fun and exciting outings doing fun activities with someone you don’t know. Alternatively, if you are not meeting any great dating prospects, then you might wind up with more lonesome nights than fun ones.
Being In A Relationship
Relationships are cool because you get to share your life with someone. That does not mean when you want to spend time alone you cannot. On the contrary, you get to spend time with your loved one and spend time alone doing the things that you love. For instance, in a healthy relationship, you go out and meet up with friends or enjoy your favorite outdoor activities. However, you can also set a date to do some cool things you enjoy doing with your partner. Being in a relationship, so long as it is a healthy one, does not take away from your private time. Sure, you have to consider someone else other than yourself. However, when you love that person your consideration for them is a choice, not an obligation.
Another reason being in a relationship is great is because you get to experience all of the fun and romance of the holidays with the one you love. Valentine’s Day sucks when you are single with no one to woo. However the stress of giving and receiving unwanted gifts just to prove your love can be a downer. This is when being single is a bonus. If you hate all the holiday muss and fuss, then being single can be a bonus for you. Sure spending the holidays with friends and family is great. But, having the privilege or the freedom to avoid the holidays altogether can be quite exhilarating.
To conclude, being single or in a relationship is a matter of choice. However, we are not lone cells, thus we were not meant to be alone. As human beings, we thrive better in a relationship than alone. That said: if you’re going to be single, make sure you have some good work, family and platonic relationships. Spending time alone to promote some self-care or some “me time” is essential to our overall health and well-being. After all, if you do not love your SELF, you cannot effectively love another. Overall, being in healthy and loving relationships, whether romantic or not, adds value to your life and your life experiences.
Originally published on Finding Happily and republished to Medium.
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