A woman wonders how to get her slobbish guy away from his laptop and into some nicer clothes.
Dear Sexes: My fiancé works from home, in his room, on his computer. Most of the time he wears pajamas all day. I find this incredibly unattractive. How do I tell him this without offending him?
She Said: I should probably say, “tell him how you feel”… And yeah, you should try that. But here’s how really I feel: This is who he is. He is a slob. He probably goes back to bed in those same clothes, complete with a dried-on Ramen noodle on the collar. He probably also has towels that smell like mildew and four days of dishes in his sink.
Accept your fiance as he is or move on. It’s super fun for a while to tell people what to do and to clean up after them. Makes you feel powerful! But one day you’ll have little people around that you actually have to tell what to do and clean up after… and then you’ll look at that slob you’ve been taking care of all those years and want to punch him in the neck-beard.
He Said: Are you a pajamas hater in general, or is it just that your fiance’s pajamas are particularly ratty/smelly/hole-infested? Kidding aside, I think you have a few viable options:
1. Invite your fiance out for after-work drinks/dinner fun, so he has to get dressed up to join you (and you don’t have to see him in his pajamas daily).
2. How about buying him some stay-at-home dress clothes/uniform? Then he can get out of his pajamas, while still maintaining his comfort AND sexiness.
3. If all else fails, does your fiance’s body still get you goin’? If so, request him to work at home in the nude. That way you lose the lame pajamas buzzkill, and you gain a hot, naked boyfriend, waiting for you when you return home from your work.
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Originally appeared at SheSaidHeSaid.