Photographers and visual artists will always find themselves surrounded by women.
While some of these women are motivated by fame and fortune, the average woman is drawn to the photographer to fulfill a very important feminine desire:
The desire to be seen.
To be seen is very different from simply being looked or appreciated as a sexual woman.
To be seen is to be discovered, revealed. It’s to be known at the deepest levels of your being. It’s to have the hidden facets of you illuminated and celebrated. A woman craves this unveiling like a butterfly craves light or to fly.
The feminine represents the mystery of life. Some women are a mystery even to themselves, so they turn to a visual artist to reveal who they are in an image. They long for their beauty be discovered, liberated and immortalized for all to see.
A gifted and passionate photographer embodies the promise to unveil his subject, to show her to herself. His imperative is to find something inside of her to bring to the world – that has yet to be seen and uncovered.
What women could resist this possibility, given that it fulfills one of the feminine’s deepest yearnings to have her mystery known and celebrated?
Is it any wonder photographers get a lot of sex?
And yet, most men don’t embody the power of this kind of deep seeing.
I’d like to share 3 powerful keys with you for how to activate the powers of the photographer or “The Artist” so that you can cause a woman to feel the same kind of anticipation and exhilaration with you, as she might with a world-class photographer.
These keys are excerpted from my book, Open Her. You’ll find a lot more on this archetype and how to master his powers, in the book itself.
I suggest you play with these three ways and watch closely for what happens inside of the women around you and inside of you.
1. Make Her Your Next Discovery
For a lot of men the curiosity about who a woman is just a means to an end. This greatly limits a man’s capacity to open a woman. Without genuine curiosity, you cannot bring the kind of raw excitement and anticipation a photographer will bring. Passion is essential, as it’s your desire to know her that fully turns her on.
Genuinely seek to see her and to know her, beyond what you see at the surface. You want to imagine that you are the man (the explorer) who will discover her inner depths and reveal them to the world. You alone will immortalize her. How will you do it?
What can you reveal to her that she may not even see herself – at the depths of who she is?
Come up with 5 things that you personally discover about her – whether it’s about her beauty, her intellect or her heart, and write them down. You’ll need to remember them for the next step.
2. Reveal Her to Herself
Ever notice how much a woman gobbles it up when you tell her something of interest about her? How she hungers for more and more detail? That ‘s because the feminine is a mystery that yearns to be known. You are the mirror that can reflect to her unseen aspects to herself.
She loves to know what you see. Which facets of her are most attractive to you? What do you discover that no other man sees? Being revealed is incredibly stimulating for a woman. It activates her body and heart, making her feel more turned on about everything – especially you.
Share with her what you see in her (at the deepest level). Never do this a trick. Revealing a woman should always be done with the highest degree of love and integrity.
3. Celebrate your Discoveries
Celebrating your discoveries is a way of saying: I see you and I want to celebrate what I see in form. This might be shared in the way of a picture you took of her, a gemstone that reflects what you see inside of her, a piece of writing that expresses who you know her to be. It might be taking her somewhere that speaks to who she is. It could be a special kind of lovemaking session that celebrates an aspect of her she rarely permits in her daily expression.
The key is that how you celebrate her is your way of saying: I see you and I know you. The forms that I share with you are proof of that.
You have the power to be the one who sees, anytime, as a deep masculine offering. Her response to your seeing will be that she wants you to see even more of her. She will come to trust that how you see her is safe and resonates with her deepest understanding of herself.
If you want a woman to be naked with you in the sense of trusting you, if you want her to be open and sexually confident to show herself to you, practice seeing her as the photographer does. Practice seeing her as if you’ve just discovered the most beautiful flower in the world and can’t wait to explore it and show it off to the world.
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