Recently, I was talking to a guy who said that he realized his significant other was the one, once she told him.
For me, there wasn’t one particular moment in time. I had declared my love several times, broken up, made up, and proposed a few times.
From early on in the relationship, I believed she was the one! However, I probably didn’t know what ‘the one’ really meant.
Being ‘the one’. What does it really mean? It’s a feeling that I find hard to put into words. A feeling that makes my heart beat faster, and palms sweat.
My thoughts cannot travel as far as the mouth. The words that tumbled out of my mouth bear no resemblance to the thoughts in my head. Is this really a sign of ‘the one’ or is it infatuation? At a young age, with limited life experience, who could tell!
After proposing at the age of 19, breaking off the engagement at 20, and getting back together again a year later, we were married at the age of 21. Now 27 years later, I love my wife more than ever.
Over this time, there have been many times that I have felt that my wife was the one. None more so than when I stuff up in life and she forgives me. In fact, there is often a realization before she forgives me.
In the moment of reflection, while sitting in pain and self-pity, while justifying that one I have done is not that bad, I weigh up the relationship, and realize that she is the one.
I renew my commitment to not fall short of the mark once again, to not fail, and to be the best husband that I can be, so that I too, might be the one.
A daily commitment to live out the vows I made, on our wedding day.
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