Dating a Poor Guy When You’re Not
Today I want to discuss a difficult topic: Should I date a guy who is broke? I recently got this question from Marge, who has met a guy she likes, but she’s concerned about his financials. “Gregg, he’s broke – Should I date a poor guy?”
My first response to dating a broke guy is an overwhelming no! When I provide relationship advice, through my book, To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man, I describe this type of guy as a wet kitten.
Men are providers – it’s in our DNA. Money is important to completing what I call The Conveyor Belt to Manhood. This is the maturing process that men need to go through so they can function at a high level and become a high-value man.
There are exceptions. If he is a young man, studying hard in college with a future in his field, then okay, I get it. He might also be in between jobs for reasons that are not in his control. I get that too.
Should I date a guy who is broke?
But if this guy has no motivation and no prospects for a job then lose his furry ass! You can tell by his history and how he goes about his everyday life. A lazy free-loader can’t fake motivation for very long – he just can’t. And if your female intuition questions his “financial drive”, listen to her because she is right!
The Answer to “Should I Date a Guy Who is Broke?”
Look for these signs of a wet kitten:
He tends to watch a lot of TV and spends much of his time laying on the couch
Probably out of shape
He has blisters on his fingers that just happen to match up with the Xbox controller
His refrigerator (or his moms) is full of crap – no low fat yogurt in site
His apartment is usually trashed because he is too lazy to clean
He asks to borrow money in the first two weeks of knowing him
Date? Movie and pizza split Dutch treat – if you’re lucky
His couch seat imprint matches up directly to his butt
His credit cards are maxed
He hits the ATM every other day to withdraw ten bucks
Don’t waste your time dating a poor guy – You will regret it. If a guy works hard, you will find he works hard at other aspects in his life as well. He has to – it makes sense.
Financials are huge and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Life is tough enough without needing to support your 25- 35 year old boyfriend who hasn’t gone on an interview in four years.
Sure, he may counter this with a sexy blue eyes and a magical tongue but those things ain’t paying the rent or buying a Barbados vacation anytime soon!
“Should I date a guy who is broke?” I say no!
A version of this post was previously published on Who Holds The Cards Now and is republished here with permission from the author.
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