She’s not happy that her boyfriend is shedding tears after they watch Avatar. What gives?
Dear Sexes: My boyfriend cries after movies. And not just Blue Valentine. He cried like a baby, full-on boo-hoo’ing after Avatar. Avatar! It seriously makes me not want to have sex with him ever again. What do I do?
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She Said: Wait, he boo-hoo’d after Avatar? With the blue people? Is he on medication? Should he be?
I bet there are girls out there who would find this super sexy. The fact that it makes you want to put on a chastity belt and throw away the key is a major indicator of a problem in your compatibility. Trust me, if this crying thing bugs you now, it’ll only get worse as years pass. And he’s going to resent you for not understanding his sensitivity (you frigid bitch).
Seriously though, it sounds like this guy’s not the one for you. Lots of fish in the sea.
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He Said: Maybe your boyfriend has some issues with blue things (Blue Valentine, blue beings in Avatar)?!?! Kidding aside though, what are your expectations for men (or your boyfriend), as it relates to showing emotions? Would your ideal boyfriend never shed a tear over anything ever? Or just not over sci-fi movies? I know you have a vagina, but do YOU ever cry at movies?
In my experience, real men DO cry (sometimes even at movies). Crying while watching South Park would be weird, but never crying at all would be much weirder!!! Remember he can still maintain his manliness (even your idea of what manliness should be) in other ways. Does his body still get you hot? Is he strong, is he tough, is he protective of you, and your passions? These qualities are REALLY manly!!!
P.S. – Perhaps your boyfriend just has a problem with his tear ducts?!?
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There are parts of Avatar, specifically, that get me choked up. Lots of people don’t like the movie; I get that. But I think just about everything about it is beautiful. I don’t cry openly simply because I don’t cry in front of other people. Still, though, if he is otherwise a tough, manly guy, you should feel flattered that he’s willing to be vulnerable in front of you.
It sounds like a simple case of trying to keep men in rigidly masculine gender roles. Look—feminism fights for (and should) fight for women’s right to be as masculine, feminine, or anything in between as they want. It only makes sense it should also fight for men’s right to be masculine, feminine, or anything in between as they want. If a het man wrote that his girlfriend asserted herself or played sports and that made him really not want to have sex with her, I’m sure there’d be tons of people calling him an a-hole. This is pretty much the… Read more »
Hahahahababa….oh G0D! You know it’s times like this where I really feel that TGMP is worth paying for. I’m going to beat my drum Now…Ahem.. Man As Protector… Man As Protector… Man As Protector… Women want Men as Protectors. Our emotion don’t belong to us so don’t be stupid enough to flaunt them all over the town! Have Mercy..LoL Ps I have made it a resolution to no longer Masculine Shame people thanks to this wonderful Web site…..but, Y’all gonna have to meet me Half way fellas….I mean Dang,, She should have known something was wrong when he went to see… Read more »
There’s nothing wrong with a man that cries over a movie. I don’t think the “I don’t want to have sex with him” stemmed from his cries. There’s more and she needs to be honest with her boyfriend and herself in order to be happy again. After all, if you don’t want to have sex with the person you’re dating, that’s a clear indicator that you’re not happy.
Geesh. I’m a woman and I think it’s sexy if a guy cries during a movie. Seems kind of odd that you would have such an extreme reaction to his crying. Why is it such a sexual turn off?