Tim Pylypiuk wants this to be another safe haven for reasoned discussion.
In my active moments during the gender debate, I’ve witnessed another moulding of the discourse as it gets re-shaped into an inclusive, symbiotic form. The significance of this metamorphosis is immeasurable, its impact cuts across the landscape and parts tensions like the red seas.
Egalitarian spokeswomen and men for the feminist movement emerge, en masse, from their corners of the tent and are finding the courage to wield their values for both paradigms. They refuse to be drowned at by the vocal majority of their circle while responding to all concerns. They deserve kudos, especially for walking the line between women’s and men’s issues.
They brave the fires obstructing the image of their starters, push through and risk skin melting singe to reach out with a Samaritan heart to touch their injured cores. As they themselves erect their walls fuelled by similar pain.
Having been singed myself, the aftermath has got me considering something; pain can only go so far before we end up rendering the purity, the realness of our forms, unrecognizable. Even I have been telling myself, “Where is this really getting us save for tarred complexions matching our catatonic hearts.”
Then the idea came to me. Just as “Survivor’s Tales” and its haven here welcomed all whom have been wronged by women, I’ve intended to create a similar haven for those egalitarian feminists to congregate and increase their voices. They will feel validated for their empathy they’d shown for men, for true equality.
To those feminists out there, I part my firewall and have its flames encircle us so you don’t get burnt. In turn, please do the same. That way, we’ll read our natural forms, unencumbered by soot, ash, and reddened skin. Where the opportunity to self-reflect truly lies.
But this forum also has questions to ask, issues troubling the male survivor. If I were to hear more from you on them, then it’d do me good in the end as the experiences here sweep aside past negatives. So I wouldn’t feel afraid of spending time in your movement, having to look over my shoulder for those who desire to invalidate me inhabiting the same vicinity.
In return, I’ll offer you reprieve from your frustrations. This jiltedness and jadedness you succumb to on your worst days when stating your values and beliefs in opposition. You won’t need to feel it here.
If you accept my invitation, here’s my first challenge upon having read the above screed.
Please read “Bullied by Girls and Women: One Man’s Account”, “My Guilt”, and “Smoke, Mirrors, and Earthquakes: On Being A Male Survivor”, all available here and written by me. Understand where the pain comes from, its core, then offer a detailed opinion on every facet in the comments section.
Thank you. I shall soon return with more questions and issues.
Until then, enjoy the haven.
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