Admitting Inadequacies Is Manly

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About Cameron Conaway

Cameron Conaway, Executive Editor at The Good Men Project, is a former MMA fighter and an award-winning poet. He is the author of Caged: Memoirs of a Cage-Fighting Poet, Bonemeal: Poems and Until You Make the Shore. Conaway is on the Editorial Board at Slavery Today. Follow him on Google+ and on Twitter: @CameronConaway.

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  1. If admitting one’ s inadequacies is manly then what are women expected to do? Never admit their failings?

    Surely character traits/behaviours do not need to be linked to masculinity or femininity?

    I love Death of A Salesman but was it about ‘masculinity’ or America? I don’t know.

  2. I simply wouldn’t use the word “manly” to describe these things. I think that admitting one’s inadequacies & failures is tantamount to being a responsible adult, woman or man. I see it with my daughter and her cousins, a child is fearful of admitting fault… I remember feeling that way myself, always someone or something else to blame, as long as its wasn’t me. After getting out of my last relationship, a quite abusive one, I realized that I had always shifted blame to/from myself, never wanting to correctly admit responsibility. That was my epiphany regarding adulthood, realizing that we all need to take responsibility for our inadequacies & failures, not just our talents and victories. I had finally allowed myself to not be ashamed of admitting defeat… None of us are perfect! None of us are the best at everything & none of us win all the time! Admitting you are not the best at something, that you have failed, is the first step to becoming good at something, to discovering true potential. It allows you to refocus your energy on what you are good at. I dont give excuses anymore, they solve nothing! Now, I give solutions, even to my own failures! Admitting to ones inadequacies is just living up to ones responsibilities!

  3. The Bad Man says:

    I admit that I have no desire to live up to the unreasonable expectations of others who attempt to define what is manly.

    Isn’t there enough media saturation of men’s inadequacies? AKA misandry.

  4. Appreciate this post.

  5. Yes.

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