A man asks Eli and Josie to help him figure out what he’s supposed to do with a woman’s breasts during sex.
Dear Sexes: Help out here please… what can a guy do with breasts when things get hot and heavy?
She Said: Depends upon what you’re going for here. Is this “playing” for your pleasure or hers? It’s cool if it’s for yours, that’s what sex is about: the sharing of bodies for mutual pleasure. As long as you’re not bugging her, of course.
For her: It’s completely different for every woman. Try different tactics (He Said offers some good tips, below) and see what makes her moan, squeal, giggle, bite her lip or scream (in a good way, of course!). When you get the good reaction, stick with that for a bit, then change it up and see what happens. You’ll develop a different playlist, so to speak, for any girl you’re with in the future, but you should remember what the woman you’re with now prefers.
Some very basic starters: kissing, sucking, licking, gentle touch, pinching and light biting. Start gentle, move to more firm as she gets more turned on and you’re deeper into the action. Tell her you’d love to see her touch her own breasts (then watch and learn). Ask what she’s digging, tell her to let you know if anything you do during sex isn’t her favorite.
And yes, there are a few women who aren’t into having their breasts played with. Respect that.
He Said: Bring your imagination to the party, and you can do anything!!! Okay, in truth, you can’t quite do anything. Things depend on the woman, the breasts, their sensitivity, etc… And of course, you can’t take the breasts with you – they belong to the woman they’re already on.
Be adventurous. Here are some hints: vary the pressure of your touch, the speed of your touch, and what you’re touching the breasts with. Try props. Try anything! Hopefully you can do some breast activities that are enjoyable for you AND your partner. Some women like a lot of breast attention, some don’t. Some women’s breasts (and nipples) are extremely sensitive and some are not.
When all else fails, or maybe from the very beginning, you can always talk to your girl, and ask her what she likes (and perhaps what she doesn’t like). If talking about it beforehand ruins the fun, then ask your lady while you’re going at it, in your best bedroom voice of course. When used and shared correctly, breasts are fun for everyone. Explore and enjoy!
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