Pink, Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, Joan of Arc, Shania Twain…
Forget your opinions of them.
Yeah, they’re all physically attractive, but what about how attractive they are as icons and movers of industry?
I don’t get it.
I never have.
That’s not true…I do know what it was like to want to date flawed women. It was when I could love someone I knew was in need of love. That way I could be the white knight, the savior.
But broken tends to attract broken.
And two broken halves don’t make a whole. Two complete, but possibly not perfect wholes create a powerful and potent duo.
It only took a decade to learn that.
And I’m not saying strong women are sexy because it’s been such an arguable topic.
I’m saying this because I’ve realized the truth about healthy attraction:
Powerful women— physically, mentally, and spiritually — are the hottest thing that has ever taken on the female form.
(I would assume the same for women wanting powerful men.)
Power isn’t always what we think it is…
Let’s get something clear here. Powerful is not always directly tied to masculine energy and characteristics.
Think of power just as energy.
You can be powerfully empathetic, powerfully passionate, powerfully compromising, and powerfully moving.
Look at poets, artists, musicians, producers, singers…any creative skill or talent.
I understand wanting a female partner to be dainty, harmless, adorable, and overall highly feminine because she’ll most likely have powerfully intoxicating feminine energy.
Nurturing, accepting, compassionate, soothing, intuitive, spiritually grounded energy.
Mmmm…sexy.
But, highly feminine isn’t the only healthy expression of women. I’d argue that there’s a spectrum of where we all fall between the masculine and feminine, and there are certain parts of that spectrum that we are magnetized to based on our own place along its range.
As a man, it feels great to feel like you have something to protect and feel powerful for(not over). There were moments in my own relationships where my partners had weak moments where I had to step in and be the brick wall to crash against.
It felt great to be there for them when life had taken its toll.
(I think that’s the common misconception about healthy male power.)
But, I sway away from traditional thinking when it comes to personally wanting this type of woman. Not because it’s not attractive, but because I desire something further along the spectrum.
I don’t call myself a feminist. Not formally.
But what man doesn’t want a woman who has a powerful character? Who is the creator of her own devices? Who fights for her own passionate endeavors? Who pushes herself to the edge of her limits in physicality, mental prowess, and individuality?
Fine.
You don’t want that woman that has thighs that can crush melons?
Good. Send her my way.
So hot…
The Source
I know the creation of this type of thinking is because of my own mother. She’s stood strong, a lone mother ever since I was a teenager. She didn’t ever not take care of us children or herself.
She maintained confidence and power in the company she works for, and now runs the show as the manager at her office. She is a great provider for her family with a great heart.
I want that.
She sets the standards in so many ways for what I want in my own partners.
It’s shown itself that way in my relationships. Almost all of them have been decision-makers, have made a point of their own perspective, and called me out when I was being stubborn.
The only thing I haven’t found is the skull-crushing ability.
Maybe it’s a fetish…?
It’s like those punching bag games. I’m trying to find a champion, and only the physically elite will do. Haha.
Screw you guys! It’s just a preferred skill, okay??
Anyway…
My mother isn’t a dominant powerhouse either. She’s sweet, annoyingly agreeable, and so empathetic that it shocks me when she can see past the walls that I put up.
She can read me better than anyone.
She speaks softly, she’s patient and is one of the best caregivers I’ve ever known.
She’s still so feminine. She has a unique healthy balance.
So, why do men seem to be so threatened by the power of women?
- Why not have a woman challenge your arrogance?
- Why not have a woman show you the female body at its peak?
- Why not have a woman seduce you away from a self-absorbed mission?
- Why not have a woman demonstrate real peace and presence?
- Why not have a woman to break down your rigid emotional walls?
I don’t get it.
But I guess I don’t have to.
I mean, insecurity plays a big part. But once you’re a confident well-balanced man, what’s not to love about powerful women?
Seems to me that whatever it is that “real men” are, they would want real women to match them.
I think as a society we’re still too ignorant of the fluidity of energy within individuality and relationships.
- We think that if someone is hypermasculine that they can’t also be soft, supportive, and compromising.
- We think if someone is hyperfeminine that they can’t also be decisive, powerful, and highly capable.
For me, the best of any human is their balance of energy and the fluidity they have between the masculine and feminine in unique situations and circumstances.
When partners need support and acceptance, we can all be empathetic, kind, and compassionate, even if we’re usually mission-oriented, ambitious, and never still.
When we need to stand up for ourselves and make moves, we can all be decisive, powerful, and rigid, even if we’re usually soft, intuitive, and compromising.
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So, shouldn’t we praise powerful women?
Women who seek adventure, passion, influence, and adversity.
Not sheepish, self-conscious, docile women.
Apart from attractive polarity, masculine/feminine character fluidity, typical roles, and tendencies of the sexes, we should all want lively and powerfully exuberant partners.
Not partners that are just comfortable.
Powerful isn’t a sex or a gender.
It’s a characteristic.
And powerful women are hot AF.
Change my mind.
Love you reader.
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