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this is by far the most personal video
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of every Maiden and I spent a very long
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time thinking about whether I should
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actually make it and then I I came to
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the conclusion that I should because the
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things that happened are just so
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important to me and also I really want
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to remember them and obviously seeing
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them come alive and and this thing I
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guess is it’s very important to me so
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here it is a year and a half ago I went
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to this city in south of Spain called
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Granada
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where I met this girl called the niala
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that was just such a magical thing I was
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completely astonished the only thing I
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could think about was Wow
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you know Wow and that’s when the whole
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thing started after a month I had to
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leave Spain and she had to stay to study
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so I traveled to quite a few different
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places in Europe Asia and northern
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Africa and then I flew all the way back
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to Spain to meet her present Daniela was
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until you to Jacob that she’s gonna miss
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him and she’ll see him soon I remember
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being so happy and dancing when I got
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home and stuff
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but then she had to fly all the way back
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home to the United States to continue
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her studies and as a result I continued
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traveling and then we came up with this
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idea to catch up in Mexico so she flew
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to Mexico from the US and I flew to
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Mexico from Europe and we finally met
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again then we both went back home for
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Christmas and really wanted to catch up
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as soon as possible so we both made our
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way to Italy that’s when we actually
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started dating officially a beautiful
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rose awesome Bangladeshi seller
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Bangladesh with the wind it was so good
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so it was beautiful
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after that she once again had to go back
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home and while I continued traveling to
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a lot of different places in Asia and
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eventually made my way all the way to
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the US where were once again caught up
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and and spent a couple of weeks together
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with her family getting to know everyone
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and stuff after that experience her her
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parents said that I was okay I guess and
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and and we finally were ready to do
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something we had always dreamed of doing
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ever since the day we met and that was
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to travel in Asia together
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and so together we flew all the way to
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Bangkok where we finally started our
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Southeast Asia adventure which was one
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of the most beautiful trips of my life
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[Laughter]
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I wanted to show the Neil at the best of
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Bangkok’s so the first place I took her
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to was of course a tall roof in the
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center of the city how do you like
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Bangkok so far I like it what do you
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like about it
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you the following night the Neela forgot
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she was a fan of Taif with an opted for
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something a little more familiar then we
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used some local transport and arrived to
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pension abuti one of my favorite towns
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in Thailand the reason I love it so much
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is because it features a beautiful
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Buddhist temple a very old bridge built
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during World War two a gorgeous river
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and most importantly the coolest
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waterfalls in Thailand
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a day later we hopped on a train while
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we slept as cozy as ever and found
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ourselves on a ferry heading towards one
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of the most beautiful islands in Pilon
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costs Emily look at the size of that
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statue what
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say something apart from large Chinese
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god statue Samui is also known for its
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new ponds treetop restrooms Buddhist
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monuments fire shows and it’s incredible
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white sand beaches which apparently we
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definitely took advantage of
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[Music]
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[Music]
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[Music]
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we’re probably on the same page on quite
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a few things except for the beach I’m
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having a good time though
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we made it a point not to rush anywhere
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in some way and relax victim which
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worked out just fine
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early next morning we hopped on a
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thirty-eight bus any plane and found
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ourselves in Hanoi the capital of
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Vietnam Hanoi located on the banks of
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the Red River is one of the most ancient
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capitals in the world where you can find
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well-preserved colonial buildings
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ancient pagodas and unique museums
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within walking distance from the city
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centre as much as we loved exploring
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Hanoi that we had something better in
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mind a day later we got ourselves a cool
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off-road bike and went on the Neela’s
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first-ever motorbike trip okay I’m
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excited hopefully we’re not gonna crash
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because it’s her first time and if we
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crash it’s gonna be kind of a negative
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experience maybe I’ll do my best to
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leave the Vietnamese riders Bulow’s
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would be nice
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our first stop was the ancient village
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of limits which features dozens of
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restaurants serving yes you guessed it
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snake meat look at that there’s all
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these jars of snakes and this thing and
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those things as well crazy there’s
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literally hundreds dude what apparently
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they’re always sneak whiner sneak one
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there’s only this but sous camera look
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at those snakes oh man
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the owners of that particular restaurant
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had agreed to show us how they cook the
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snake meat and as interesting as the
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process was the meat itself wasn’t
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necessarily to popular among the
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clientele oh that’s a positive face
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however the roads were so beautiful they
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made us forget the snake meat in no time
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any comments crazy girlfriend I like it
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the next morning it was raining so hard
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we had enough time to make friends with
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the hotel’s own okay in retrospect that
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might have been the owners granddaughter
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but one way or another the skies cleared
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and once again the road we wrote through
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small towns gorgeous fries fields and
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sketchy hanging Reggie’s old while being
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surrounded by breathtaking nature all
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around us so we’ve been taking these
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mountain roads for the whole day
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now what all the views around us are
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apparently completely incredible because
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we’re finally in the mountains in these
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remote parts of northern Vietnam it’s
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insane here look at that
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but I’m
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[Music]
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so apparently right now we’re walking to
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some sort of a very famous UNESCO cave
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here in the mountains it’s very humid
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very hot because now is this everytime
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and these steps there’s so many of them
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the hike certainly wasn’t the easiest
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but it felt really good to get off our
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bike and use our legs for ones plus the
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cave certainly didn’t disappoint the
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cave turned out to be much larger than I
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ever expected it to be and was really
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beautiful as it featured these large
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intricate stalagmites towering all over
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the place man this game is incredible
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much bigger than I expected much more
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you just think that I expect
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the following morning we continued
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writing our motorbike across all the aw
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inspiring mountains and villages of
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northern Vietnam until my princess
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Daniela decided to make things a little
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bit more interesting film motorbike
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rider right here okay we’re somewhere
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hop in the mountains and apparently we
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broke the clutch to the background move
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I found the guy who helped me find the
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mechanic shop but apparently cannot come
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down here they want us to push the bike
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up which is probably a 30 minute long
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hike up this mountain we’ll see what
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happens but apparently that’s just begun
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raining relatively heavily so and then
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we started a long hike up the mountain
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honestly I certainly didn’t think it was
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gonna be easy but three minutes later I
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realized it’s much harder than I
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expected
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tired already so this bag so heavy with
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the bags and everything dude oh the bees
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are good at least however having
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witnessed how weak I actually was the
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niala joined in and together we somehow
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made it all the way up in quite a bit
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more than 30 minutes
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ah how are you feeling like I need a nap
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I know yeah I need a shower and food
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nice we made it though high five
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the guys at the mechanic shop were as
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nice as all the locals in the mountains
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of Vietnam they dropped literally
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everything they were doing fixed our
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bike as fast as possible and didn’t even
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charge us any money what however having
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ridden for five minutes we faced another
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issue it has just begun raining pretty
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heavily so we stopped to put on our
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jackets and pants hope maybe we’ll get a
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positive turn of events somewhere down
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the road now everything’s going down the
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most positive car in the world
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on camera
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inspired by the Neela’s positivity and
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of course by that warming kiss I have
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back on the bike and continued fighting
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it high up in the mountains during crazy
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cold rains
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[Laughter]
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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[Music]
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okay so apparently the weather isn’t
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necessarily the greatest but the roads
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are insane completely out of this world
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yes look at that that’s probably 20
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meters away Thanks that’s it it’s gone
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see god that’s it nice there’s these
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huge huge mountains right there but you
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can’t really see the tops and then you
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should be feeling quite miserable you’re
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also really grateful for the beautiful
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nature around us we continued riding our
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bike and stopping every time it got a
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little bit too cold the ride has been
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pretty miserable but once again we get
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to see it views like this on the way so
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as with everything you like there’s
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upsides and downsides this red seems to
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have more web sites
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what do you recommend I agree a lot more
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updates even though our hands look a
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little wet a little moist just a tiny
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bit you know
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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[Music]
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so yesterday was a long night with ends
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like there’s no tomorrow
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[Music]
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today we woke up super early it’s 12
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p.m. now and I’m pretty sure today the
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rads are gonna be some of the most
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beautiful eyes throughout the tribute
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kiss we’re gonna go to the northernmost
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point of Vietnam and now we have to go
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cuz they’re probably gonna be driving
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for six or seven hours initially the
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roads were pretty spectacular but
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contrary to what we expected
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ended up being super muddy however we
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persevered and made it to the top no
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problems we finally made it
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the hills did you see next to us they’re
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still in Vietnam but there’s a tiny tiny
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tiny River just behind them and that
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basically separates China from Vietnam
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so for example details are at Stone
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Vietnam but those there in the distance
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are already China everywhere you look
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all around us right now that’s China
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basically and I was thinking you’d be
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really really cool to get very close to
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the border maybe jump in and then jump
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out but there may be no one or another
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it’s a really really nice place very
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peaceful very beautiful the north of
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Vietnam by the way when we loved the
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watchtower we spent a little bit of time
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with marring the Magnificent nature
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around us and one of the viewpoints the
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neela decided to get a better view of
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the area by hopping on my back but that
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didn’t necessarily work out as expected
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eventually we once again wrote our bike
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even deeper into the mountains until we
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came to certainly one of the most
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breathtaking view ones of our entire
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trip just chillin by the side of the
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road my boys from Vietnam
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that’s road we’re taking those are the
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rocks we’re on and that is the view
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there the following morning we have
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breakfast at exactly the same location
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and apparently I still couldn’t stop
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being astonished by the mountains around
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man this is completely incredible I’m
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standing on the road that we are taking
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and those are the regular what you have
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a huge river here really big green
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mountains and clouds everywhere insane
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and the road is practically empty spot
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one then follow it another really really
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really long motorbike ride that got us
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so exhausted we decided to take a few
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days off to do absolutely nothing but
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hug extensively while also catching up
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on work when we finally got enough rest
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it was time to check out the coolest
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waterfall in all of Vietnam half of
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which is actually in China apparently it
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took as many days to find China but
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that bad right there on the other side
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of the river is and it’s so fun because
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I’m sitting here on this tiny wall of
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this temple and I can actually see
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people on the other side the people who
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are in China right now
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the Bangkok Waterfall drops over 13
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meters and is currently the fourth
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largest waterfall in the world that’s
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along a national border separating
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Vietnam from China you can see the
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waterfall from a beautiful temple built
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on top of a hill or also by actually
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getting down to the waterfall itself and
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hopping on a tiny raft which is exactly
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what we did okay we are finally on the
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way to check out the waterfall and we
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have our own wrap look those are the
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Chinese tourists right there and
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apparently they count across to our side
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and we can across to their side it’s
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incredible I’m literally 10 meters away
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or 20 meters away some of that but if I
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cross to get decided probably goats dip
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[Music]
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[Music]
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having explored the water flow we once
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again hit the road and ended up in this
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tiny tiny tiny mountain village where
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the yella was making great friends with
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a really cute local kids and I well I
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decided to show off – read early
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football skills
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the next morning were once honey both
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work you see the village we slept and
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was right next to the largest natural
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lake in all of Vietnam called Bobby
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haven’t been formed approximately 200
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million years ago the lake is surrounded
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by limestone cliffs which in turn are
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covered by primary forests the lake is a
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famous biodiversity reservoir that is
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home to a large range of animals and
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plants it also apparently looks
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absolutely spectacular and has quite a
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few interesting places to explore we
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came to a large cave somewhere here
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barold the river is crossing the Cape as
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you can swim through the whole cave with
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a boat which is pretty interesting and
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the ceiling is incredibly high all the
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way to there
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it’s good place quickly we spent another
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few hours making our way all around the
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lake and eventually got back on our
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motorbike for a one final ride in
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Vietnam
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[Applause]
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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and so apparently the trip is over we’re
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back to Hanoi 1,500 kilometers done
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did you like it at least oh I loved it I
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loved it it was amazing was it you
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Johnson
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Hermes it was amazing huge fantastic
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fantastic
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spectacu spectacular nificent look
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yes we indeed found ourselves in Kuala
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Lumpur the capital of Malaysian one of
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my favorite cities in the world but this
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is where our story took a pretty
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unfortunate turn so when we got to Kuala
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Lumpur we got talking about a few things
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and we have been talking about them for
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a while I guess but there just seemed to
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be this thing where we both love each
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other so much but at the same time it
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was sometimes hard to understand each
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other or be on the same page with things
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we came to the conclusion that it was I
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guess mostly because we came from
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completely different backgrounds and
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completely different upbringings and at
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that point we we just came to the
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conclusion that that may be the the best
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thing to do would be to I guess go our
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separate ways and then the niala bought
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her flight ticket back home which was
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supposed to leave in two and a half days
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from then and that was just such a you
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know such a sad sad thing
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nonetheless we decided to completely
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disconnect from the internet forget our
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computers our phones everything and
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simply spend time together be there for
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one another 100% he was literally every
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single mili second of those two and a
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half days that we had and that time was
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just so so so so incredible
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and that’s that’s it that’s when we
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separated I will always remember those
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those last days and they were so
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beautiful and I mean they were so good
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that then he I’ll even agreed to dance
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with me in a public place in the city
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center of Kuala Lumpur
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[Music]
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this experience taught me so many things
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about myself and relationships in
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general and you know other people and
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life as well and I guess the most
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important thing was the fact that if you
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if you left someone you should just love
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them unconditionally without thinking
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about what you’re getting back what
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you’re giving what you’re receiving you
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know just just loving them the way they
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are and I know it’s very easy to say oh
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just love someone the way they are but
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in reality it’s maybe much harder to do
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because you know things come up and
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there’s all these situations and stuff
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but Tim but maybe that really is the
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answer to all of life’s problems you
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know just to just loving people the way
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they are being there for them supporting
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them
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whatever happens in
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[Music]
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being there for them 100% and showing
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them you care
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that being said I guess life goes on and
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things happen for a reason maybe
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I did
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[Music]
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you
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