4 Things Great Women Do Differently

According to Thought Catalog, confident women don’t take it personally when a guy doesn’t want a romantic relationship any longer. But even though it’s only right for one to move on with her life after the failure of a relationship because the relationship must not be the right one, a woman might be the one who actually forced a man to walk out of her life without looking back.

We all know that almost every couple who gets divorced once loved each other and never thought their marriage will end up that way, yet there are nearly 2,400 divorces every single day in the United States. This implies that love alone can’t keep a romantic partnership.

Sometimes, it’s some subtle toxic habits that cost a woman her man despite her goodness. This habit sabotages the success of their relationships. Although, there’s indeed no magic hack that’ll guarantee a healthy and blissful relationship but avoiding some counterproductive habits could transform your relationships. However, this doesn’t in any way mean that I’m trying to pin every marriage failure to women because that’s wrong. Men also play huge roles in a lot of them. But I just want to point out a few things a woman might consider avoiding to make a man less willing to walk away.

That said, here are 4 things great women do differently in their relationships that keep men helplessly hooked and less willing to leave:

1. They don’t try to govern their men’s lives.

A woman who’s confident enough to voice out her feelings and opinions is certainly more attractive than one who has no voice at all. But most times, a woman who behaves like a control freak will only make a man’s life helplessly miserable.

Unless they are suffering from “control freak” disorder, some women might out of care, try to control every aspect of their men’s life which includes how they spend their day, who they hang out with, who they talk to on phone, how they spend their money, etc, with little or no respect for the men’s boundaries.

And the truth is, no man wants to be robbed of his freedom simply because he’s in a relationship.

But don’t get me wrong: Caring for the well-being and safety of your man and your relationship is great.

However, trying always to force your opinions or beliefs down the throat of a man due to insecurity or unending need to be significant isn’t a great idea.

It’s insecurity that makes a woman allow her jealousy to get the best part of her and make her try to dictate: how her men spend his day, who he hangs out with, who he talks to on the phone, etc.

And it’s the urge to be significant that often leads a woman to suggest how her man spends his money and other unsolicited advice or suggestions on how to be a better man.

Either way, trying to control him slowly builds resentment in him as it makes him feel less than a man or not good enough for you.

We all want to be significant. We all feel insecure at times. And it’s even justifiable to be insecure about your relationship If your man cheated on you multiple times, is coming home later than usual, or if your instinct tells you that something’s off. But great women aren’t endlessly insecure to disregard their men’s boundaries just to feel safe or significant enough.

Having a caring woman is great but a woman who strips one of freedom to make decisions like an adult isn’t.

To a man, being in control of his life means the world to him, and having a woman who wants to kind of rule his life makes him look for an exit door out of such a relationship as soon as an opportunity presents its self.

2. Great women have deep respect for their men.

While love is indeed important, respect is certainly more important. In fact, respect breeds real love.

Honestly, it’s easy to assume love to be respect but the two aren’t the same.

You can have respect for someone that you don’t have an ounce of love for and you can as well love someone but still have no respect for the person. I love my father but because he’s a drunkard, I don’t think I respect him as much as I should.

But that’s where a lot of us get it all wrong. We mostly respect people for what they do and not for who they are. But respect actually means accepting somebody for who they are, even when they’re different from you or you don’t agree with them.

One of the things that set great women apart from others is that, unlike some women who out of familiarity lose respect for their men over time, they have a kind of deep and unconditional respect for their men.

That’s why their love is more likely to remain steadfast through difficult times and old age — of course, without respect the road will be a rocky one. The relationship might crash.

It all boils down to this…

Love isn’t a magical cure-all. Love isn’t always enough. Relationships aren’t just about feelings of love, affection, and attraction which mostly ends after the honeymoon period.

Healthy relationships require trust, effective communication, support for one another, the presence of healthy boundaries, and respect. But out of all these respect seems to be the most important because respect molds feelings of trust, safety, and emotional wellbeing which are the core of them all.

A partner that has no respect for you, will hardly ever care to really listen to whatever you say let alone understand your perspective or standpoint. Your choices and opinions won’t matter to them. As they’ll always try to convince you to change your mind towards most of your choices and opinions. Worse, your privacy and boundaries will be always violated. Frustrating isn’t it?

That’s exactly why a man’s interest will gradually vanish if he gets such treatments. Who wouldn’t lose interest? I’m sure you’ll also do the same.

3. Great women are more of teammates to their partners than competitive opponents.

They’re women who are simply rivals competing on opposing teams to their partners. They endlessly make their men feel inadequate with their unending quest to be on the winning side.

Even though some playful competition, such as challenging your partner to a race or a board game is quite harmless, being overly competitive up to the point where it displaces your man’s masculinity is something else.

This doesn’t mean you should be overly cautious and never do something fun. It just means you should be careful about your relationships and about how you make others feel.

Some women endlessly compete for control and power in the relationship with their men, they argue with their partners about who’s right even in front of friends, they use the fact that they make more money to emasculate their men, in fact, they simply make their partner feel like they’re against him instead of being for him. Hence, he will sooner or later begin to look for a way out of the relationship.

But great women, on the other hand, know that a man shouldn’t control the entire relationship but that there should be a kind of balance of power i.e each person surrenders control in certain areas.

But that’s not all…

Instead of striving to win or to be better than their men, they also strive to operate as a team to conquer the world together.

4. Great women aren’t so bent on fixing their men.

Women who love to be “saviors” always have this unending urge to fix guys they perceive to be emotionally or otherwise screwed up. They’re so obsessed with playing the role of guidance counselors. They always convince themselves that a man needs saving even when he doesn’t.

The truth is, they might be the ones who need to stop projecting their made-up fairytale ideals of the “perfect guy” on men, but they always fail to realize this.

They might be oblivious of the fact that a relationship that’s based on one person consistently seeking to change the other is certainly doomed to fail. But great women aren’t.

Instead, they love and accept their significant others just the way they are because being so bent on fixing or changing a man alienates him and even forces him to resent you. Who would like someone to consistently try to force or impose their beliefs on them?

The bottom line?

This point and all other points discussed above, all drive towards one bus stop: We men, don’t want a woman to babysit us, make us feel less than men, or inadequate. And trying to make us feel this way will force us to run for the hills without looking back.

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This post was previously published on Medium.

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