Many men experience being vulnerable as a huge risk, especially at work. In this episode we discuss the types of vulnerability that make you more respected and create an effective and enjoyable work environment.
I know being vulnerable can be risky, especially as a man, and especially at work!
You may worry that you’ll lose respect and admiration, or even your job, if you don’t look like you have it all together.
The reality is there are ways of being vulnerable that bring you more respect and ways that don’t. It’s not always easy to know which is which.
Moe Carrick has spent more than 30 years working in organizations on issues of partnership, leadership, inclusion, strategy and culture. She loves men as much as I do and understands there are challenging dynamics for men specifically.
In this conversation we discussed how the right kind of vulnerability creates an effective and enjoyable work environment and often then extends into more satisfaction in romantic relationships and family life. We also talked about:
- The surprising traits leaders say are most needed in business in the next 50 years
- Balancing home and work life, especially in heterosexual couples
- Necessary fundamentals to build effective partnerships and teams
- What Moe has seen when men have taken the lead to welcome vulnerability at work
- Moe’s TEDx Talk on Loving Men and her book: Bravespace Workplace
I loved having this conversation with another woman who has a special place in her heart for men. I highly recommend listening to this episode to hear Moe’s clarity about how you can be more vulnerable without losing your power.
When you’re done with this episode, check out this powerful episode with psychologist and author Dr. Susan Campbell on how to get closer to people by being vulnerable, especially in times of crisis.
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Connect with Moe
Moe holds a Master’s Degree in OD, is a Certified Daring Way™/Dare to Lead™ Facilitator, a Coach, and administrator of a variety of tools in her trade. She is also a Senior Consultant with White Men as Full Diversity Partners (WMFDP,) the market leaders in including white men in the critical conversations required to sustain truly inclusive cultures.
As a facilitator, protagonist, consultant, entrepreneur, author, employer, and relentless optimist, Moe believes that people can and should thrive at work, and that when they do, organizations succeed. With over 30 years of work in organizations on issues of partnership, leadership, inclusion, strategy and culture Moe believes that rigorous self-awareness, courage, honest dialogue, active involvement, and empathy are fundamentals to building full partnerships based on trust and curiosity. As a white, US-born, heterosexual woman, Moe strives to use her privilege with grace to surface assumptions that interfere with teams and to explore systemic patterns.
Moe is passionate about the role work plays in creating meaning for our lives and in the role business can play as a force for good. She is a regular blogger on topics related to people at work and is a contributor to Conscious Company Magazine. Maven House Press released her first book, bestseller FIT MATTERS: How to Love Your Job, with co- author Cammie Dunaway in 2017. Her second book, Bravespace: Creating Workplaces Fit for Human Life, released in June 2019.
Mom, daughter, gardener, wife, ex-wife, adventurer, entrepreneur, and consultant Moe Carrick believes that people make organizations great. Companies large and small are routinely brought to their knees by the so-called “soft stuff” of people problems – as anyone knows who has tried, this work is hard.
Check out Honest Sex, a new book author Shana James.
Some say we are outgrowing marriage as a culture. However, the problem that author Shana James regularly sees as a relationship coach—and through her own divorce—is that many of us have not matured enough to create the emotionally-connected, sexually-satisfying relationships we long for.
Honest Sex teaches us what kind of honesty is effective for creating closeness, what sex actually is (rather than what we’ve been taught), and how to communicate desires and upsets to create more intimacy. By examining new ways to sustain connection with a partner, author Shana James illuminates a framework for relationships to start strong and get more intimate and exciting over time.
James is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast and has a TEDx Talk, “What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.” As a relationship coach for 20 years, she humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Her first book, Power and Pleasure: A Man’s Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader, supports men to be fulfilled in love and work. In this book, written for all genders, she uses her Master’s in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications to guide readers to create more honest and passionate romantic relationships.
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Previously Published on shanajamescoaching.com
