I’ve been there, hell, I was there just a couple weeks ago. That unclear limbo between friends and lovers where no one knows what the heck is going on and everything is undefined.
This purgatory is unofficially called the “Situationship”. These are signs you should look out for so you don’t stay in it for too long.
1. The “What are we?” Question Haunts Your Dreams
You have no idea how you’re going to ask them the question. You’ve practiced saying it in the mirror 73 times, but when you are together, your practice all goes to shit.
You are scared of asking because you are terrified it would end the relationship and that’s really toxic.
2. Plans Are Super Unstable
Let’s play it by hear
If that’s the motto of your relationship, that could spell trouble.
Sure, spontaneity is sexy as hell, but when was the last time a solid plan longer than 24 hours was made between you two that actually came to fruition? If you don’t know the answer to that question… [Gulps saliva].
3. You’re a Pro At Decoding Mixed Signals
Their texts could make an analyst pull out their hair.
One day you are getting loved bombed with constant texts with emojis oozing out of every letter, the next it’s radio silence. If that’s happening too often in your relationship, replace “Rela” with “Situation” and call it a day.
4. Public Displays of Affection Are a No-No
You have a much higher chance spotting Bigfoot climbing the fully grown magical bean than get a kiss in front of their friends.
I’m not exaggerating. If this is your relationship where all the displays of affection happen only when you’re alone with them, well now you know.
5. No Talk of the Future Is Allowed
Mention anything remotely about where you see each other in 5 years and they’ll change the topic faster than you can say “Never mind “
If a conversation about their future with you scares them that much, maybe they just don’t see you in it. You deserve better.
6. The Pangs of Jealousy Stay with You
Jealousy is normal in a relationship and should be talked about with your partner to get rid of it.
Where problems arise is when you can’t say anything to them because you’re “not exclusive “. So you resort to social media stalking where you accidentally click like on an ancient photo he posted with a girl that kinda looks like you — scratch that last part.
7. You’re Reading This Article
Let’s face it, if you’re nodding to half the things on this list, you need to evaluate.
That applies to people who are reading it because it relates to them. If you’re reading it because of pure entertainment and nothing else, I really hope I was worth your valuable 3 minutes it took to do so.
Trust me, I did try to make it entertaining.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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