Finding ways to paint a disempowered people as more of a threat than their more armed and powerful oppressors has long been a classic tactic of upholding the continued oppression of said people.
Those who idolize resilience often forget the opposite end of the pendulum, in which shaking everything off can mean tolerating toxic or abusive qualities in relationships.
We will not be silenced.
No one is asking you to apologize for being white.
Why is being “just a friend” a bad thing?