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Should We Play It Cool When We Like Someone? [Video]

We tend to be told, from a young age, that the very worst thing to do when we like someone is to seem too direct or keen.

October 10, 2018 by The Editors Leave a Comment

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Showing our interest is, apparently, fatal to the chances of a relationship. But is playing it cool always so necessary? And are spontaneous desire and enthusiasm always so taboo?

“One of the paradoxes of the dating game is that we know that by coming across as enthusiastic at an early stage – if we ring them the next day, if we are open about how attractive we find them, if we suggest meeting them again very soon – we are putting ourselves at a high risk of disgusting the very person we would so like to get to know better…”

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