More than once I have been caught appreciating an attractive woman by her boyfriend or spouse. I just turn it into a compliment to him by a smile and a wink back at him when he gives me the eye. Once I have gotten the “what are you looking at?” from some guy. I replied ” I was looking at this beautiful lady with you! You da man!” and to the lady… “Do you have a sister?” What’s the guy going to do? You fessed up, gave both of them a compliment and took the wind right out of his… Read more »
First off, I have a right to look, and other people have the right to feel offended by my looking. It’s my eyeballs and my neck. I can move them any way that I want to. Keep your rules off of my body. I find it most diplomatic to look without noticing. (Or is it noticing without looking?) It’s just good manners to be subtle. Don’t stare. Use your short-term memory and your peripheral vision. Check out the beautiful woman walking her dog and make a comment to your girlfriend about how cute the dog is. “What?! I was looking… Read more »
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Tim
11 years ago
The comments so far have made the assumed that the person getting mad was the girlfriend of the man doing the ogling, and that he was ogling some other woman. This getting-mad I can understand — I get jealous about things too. What I find hard to understand is when you don’t even have a girlfriend, and you ogle a woman, and *the woman you were ogling* (or one of her friends) gets mad. OK, maybe the sexual attention is unwelcome, but I have a solution for you, Mad Ogled Woman: So what? Suck it up. Think about it this… Read more »
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D.K.M.
11 years ago
I admit that I’ve gotten upset when my boyfriend or other men are caught doing this. I also admit that after I get upset I see it as something normal and that I’ve done it too. Initially the reason for getting upset is because in a way it is threatening to me and it makes me feel less special at that moment. I have this romanticized idea that because he is with me then no one else should seem attractive or more special than me. So yes, my first instinct is to get upset but then I rationalize it and… Read more »
More than once I have been caught appreciating an attractive woman by her boyfriend or spouse. I just turn it into a compliment to him by a smile and a wink back at him when he gives me the eye. Once I have gotten the “what are you looking at?” from some guy. I replied ” I was looking at this beautiful lady with you! You da man!” and to the lady… “Do you have a sister?” What’s the guy going to do? You fessed up, gave both of them a compliment and took the wind right out of his… Read more »
First off, I have a right to look, and other people have the right to feel offended by my looking. It’s my eyeballs and my neck. I can move them any way that I want to. Keep your rules off of my body. I find it most diplomatic to look without noticing. (Or is it noticing without looking?) It’s just good manners to be subtle. Don’t stare. Use your short-term memory and your peripheral vision. Check out the beautiful woman walking her dog and make a comment to your girlfriend about how cute the dog is. “What?! I was looking… Read more »
The comments so far have made the assumed that the person getting mad was the girlfriend of the man doing the ogling, and that he was ogling some other woman. This getting-mad I can understand — I get jealous about things too. What I find hard to understand is when you don’t even have a girlfriend, and you ogle a woman, and *the woman you were ogling* (or one of her friends) gets mad. OK, maybe the sexual attention is unwelcome, but I have a solution for you, Mad Ogled Woman: So what? Suck it up. Think about it this… Read more »
I admit that I’ve gotten upset when my boyfriend or other men are caught doing this. I also admit that after I get upset I see it as something normal and that I’ve done it too. Initially the reason for getting upset is because in a way it is threatening to me and it makes me feel less special at that moment. I have this romanticized idea that because he is with me then no one else should seem attractive or more special than me. So yes, my first instinct is to get upset but then I rationalize it and… Read more »
amen!