You’re not destined to be stuck in the misery grief. You can move through it and be happy again.
A dad’s path is different after divorce. We are forced to become a wolf pack of one. We’ve got to pick ourselves up and reinvent our lives. As the mom and kids stay in the marital home, dads are given the boot. This jarring fracture from life before the divorce is what causes so many of them to give up on themselves and their families.
When you can truly hear what your pain is trying to tell you, you’ll be able to heal.
The irony of the emotions involved in divorce.
Unrealistic expectations in marriage contribute to almost 50% of divorces. But you don’t have to be a statistic.
“I used to believe that a breach of trust was something that couples could bounce back from quickly but I’ve gained insight about the ways this isn’t the case.”
Life won’t necessarily be easy, but it can be better.
Here are four things to consider when expressing your needs to your partner.
I do think my ex-wife and I could’ve agreed to 50/50 parenting and gotten a judge to sign off on our agreement. But she would never have given up her legal/strategic advantage. Perhaps she was doing what she thought was best for the children. Perhaps. But I think she was more self-centered than that, she was doing what she wanted, regardless of the impact on the kids.
Admitting that there is a problem and a willingness to get help from a professional are essential to saving a marriage with financial infidelity or stress.
Why making tough choices is one of the best things you can ever do.
As the man in the divorce, you have an opportunity to lead the process with grace and empathy. You cannot control how your ex behaves, the only thing you can control is your own response to the challenges ahead.
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Forgiving others and yourself is infinitely terrifying yet necessary for achieving healthy relationships. It’s about being willing to acknowledge that you are capable of being wounded and able to risk exposing yourself. It also means that you’re stepping out of the role of a victim and taking charge of…
Finding the coping mechanisms make a difference to long-term outcomes.
I think about the nine years it has taken me to feel connected again. As I was being asked to leave my marriage and leave behind my children, I knew it was going to be a LONG TIME before I felt like I had a “home” again. I am not there yet, but I am building a foundation for just that.
You can co-parent with minimal contact and still raise happy kids.